tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91216035118835004242024-03-04T22:29:26.705-07:00a dash of parsleyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.comBlogger147125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-68481709484023476542016-10-03T06:20:00.001-06:002016-10-03T06:20:53.974-06:00I've moved!I'd love to see you at my new home!<br />
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I thought I could just work away, behind the scenes, for a bit but then realized that a post went out to you! It was old. Sorry about that.<br />
I am working on some things and then I will be back.<br />
Thank you for being consistent and allowing me to grace your inbox.<br />
Hang with me and we'll chat soon. xoxoAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-432116706532105222014-07-14T02:00:00.000-06:002014-07-14T02:00:02.445-06:00On Why Leaving is GoodBrad and I have been married for almost 15 years. In those almost 15 years, we have worked for 3 different churches and 4 lead pastors.<br />
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I always thought that our testimony would be about staying. We served at New Life Church for 10 years before we left and went to Church of the Highlands. After 18 months, God called us back to New Life. We were serving under a different pastor, but with many of the same people we had known for years. I truly thought we would live the rest of our days there, living life through change and trial, triumph and new beginnings...staying. I thought many people can come and go, but we stay steady. We would be the ones that stayed.<br />
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Now we are here, on our 4th "assignment". We're in a totally new church, with completely new people, new lead pastors. Brad has a long history here. For me, however, this is completely new.<br />
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I first heard of Jesus' saving grace at New Life 18 1/2 years ago. All of my early, formative years as a new Christian were there...under the same teaching, same pastors, for 10 years. The first time we left I felt somewhat lost<i>. </i>Orphaned. Like I couldn't find my people. Of course, this went away over time. Now in this transition, I have not felt so much lost but just different...there are differences between the way I'm used to doing things, or the way I've seen things done and the way <i>they </i>do things.<br />
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It isn't about good versus bad. It isn't about sin versus holy. It isn't about what is Biblical. It's about patterns. Habits. And every church has them. House rules.<br />
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When Brad and I married, we began creating our Parsley-House rules. We didn't know we were doing it at the time, but we began this process of combining how he grew up with how I grew up. What should family dinner time look like? What about date nights? How would we manage our money? What would nights at home look like? Now, the result is a somewhat balanced representation of each of our upbringings.<br />
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We rarely miss church, we sing loud and eat sausage balls on Christmas morning. We eat strawberry shortcake with homemade biscuits versus spongecake...things the Parsleys do.<br />
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We eat my mom's fruit salad and Thanksgiving stuffing. We do holidays big and have a high priority on traditions and family vacations...things the Gilmores do.<br />
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These have now been adopted as our own and come naturally to our children. We also have little things we've created on our own like sleepover nights between siblings, kitchen dance parties, and "how was your day" (a game we play at the dinner table). They are <i>our </i>Parsley-House traditions.<br />
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Our family is a beautiful blend of our extended families and new traditions. Things we were brought up with and things that we have learned and created on our own.<br />
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So it is with our relationship with Christ.<br />
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I have years of <a href="http://www.newlifechurch.org/" target="_blank">New Life</a> in me. Much of the way I worship, am strong in trial, pray for the lost, desire to reach the unreached...is rooted deep in me. It began and grew at New Life.<br />
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I have <a href="http://www.churchofthehighlands.com/" target="_blank">Highlands</a> in me. Doing ministry with excellence, having accountability, reading my Bible every day with intent and not law, the desire to bring change to a region...these were deposited in me during our time in Birmingham.<br />
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I also have New Life 2.0 in me. It was during these years that I learned what Biblical rest is. I learned that it is important to work hard, to expend much of what I have, and then to recharge. I learned what prophetic worship is. It was during this time that I learned much of what I now believe about international missions and how to partner effectively with Christians in other nations.<br />
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And now we are <a href="http://gochristfellowship.com/" target="_blank">here</a>. I have brought all of what is in me...pieces of each house. I also have strengths and desires that are learned simply from my relationship with Jesus. And I am learning from <i>this house</i>. I am learning so much about leadership and excellence and welcoming diversity. It is just beginning here.<br />
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I am so thankful for the Body of Christ. I'm so thankful for the privilege to see many different expressions and traditions and ways of doing things. I'm thankful that we've been a part of four thriving churches. We (the global church) have such a diverse culture. And it is beautiful. Each house has it's own expressions, it's own traditions, it's own "norm." We can spend our time complaining and criticizing...trying to make everyone fit into our box of what <i>we</i> think church should be. Or we can be thankful and appreciate and learn. We can smile knowing that we are all reaching for the same goal. We can be unified and grace-filled. We can strive to see each other the way that Jesus sees us...as one beautiful house with many facets.<br />
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It is then that <i>they</i> become <i>we</i>.<br />
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We have tried several beaches here around our home. Before moving here, I had no idea that each beach could be so different. Each one has it's own perks and our children quickly chose their favorites. Unfortunately, until recently, we couldn't find one that we all loved!<br />
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There a few things that make Florida beaches unique, particularly Palm Beach County Beaches:<br />
~Most of them are havens for sea turtles and their nests--some have restrictions about beach umbrellas <br />
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~Floridians take their beaches seriously: most are not developed (meaning very few hotels,<br />
restaurants, etc can be found on the beach). Make sure to take bags for your trash. Whatever you<br />
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We still consider ourselves beginners, but here is a run down of the beaches we've tried and our opinions of each:<br />
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<b>Hutchison Island: </b>This is the furthest north we've been since moving here. The beach (sand area) at this one is deep and and very easily accessed from the parking lot (no crossing the street). The water is shallow for a ways out. It is life guarded. Nice bathrooms right next to the beach. Downsides: parking is definitely a struggle and this is a decent 30-45 minute drive from our house.<br />
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<b>Blowing Rocks Preserve:</b> We ended up here on accident..I was actually looking for Jupiter Beach and went way too far north. This is a preserve so parking is far from the beach. It's a neat, natural, jungle-y type walk from the parking lot to the beach. The water comes right up into the rocks at high tide. We wanted beach so we walked a <i>really long </i>way with all of our gear to the sandy area of the beach. We were the only ones on the entire beach which was fun, and a bit nerve racking when I realized there was no lifeguard. No restrooms and they do ask for a $5 suggested donation. And did I mention the large spiders in the canopy of the nature trail? Cool, but uh...we haven't been back!<br />
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<b>Jupiter Beach/Dubois Park: </b>This is one of our favorites. It is a large park with lots of parking and several access points to the water. There are 3 swimming areas: the lagoon which is shallow and pretty clear. It feels like a natural pool. The intracoastal which is deeper and rocky and the beach side which is also Jupiter Beach. The jetty is here and there are always pelicans hanging out as people fish. We don't normally swim on the beach side because we've heard of many shark sightings there. All 3 areas are life guarded. The views of the intracoastal, the boats and multi-million dollar waterfront homes make for a scenic backdrop. There are restrooms, playground, picnic tables and grills right along the lagoon and intracoastal. The downsides are the no-see-ums that come out at dusk and rumors of the dangers of the stagnant lagoon water.<br />
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<b>Marcinski: </b>Parking right along the beach or in the parking lot directly across the street. Dog friendly (which can be good or bad, depending on your preference). The tide can come right up to the beach access at some spots. Most of this beach is not life guarded.<br />
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<b>Juno Beach:</b> This is the only pier on our end of town. Lots of fishing, which also means sharks (yes, maybe we're paranoid!). The currents are stronger near the pier as well. You can pay a small fee (if I remember it's $2-$4) to walk the pier which is used primarily for fishing. This is also one of the best places on this side of town to surf. It is life guarded, parking is across the street.<br />
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<b>Loggerhead Park: </b>Another favorite! The Loggerhead Marine Life Center is a must see--we love seeing all the sea turtles being rehabilitated and all the babies! We went once and saw a rehabilitated sea turtle being returned to the ocean. So fun! Beyond that, this is a great family beach. Decent waves for our boogie boarders but not so strong that the littler ones can't enjoy it. This is also life guarded. Parking, restrooms and a playground are right across the street.<br />
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<b>Macarthur Park:</b> Brad and I have been here once and we look forward to going back with the kids. A $5 entrance per car gets you all day access to this State Park. There are many things to see and do, including kayaking, nature trails, a nature center and gift shop. A boardwalk provides access over the intracoastal to the beach side of the park. This beach is somewhat untouched and natural. There are restrooms but no lifeguard.<br />
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<b>Singer Island: </b>This part of town actually reminds me the most of Cocoa Beach...shops, hotels and restaurants right next to the beach...surfing, jet skis and other water sports are easily accessible. It is life guarded and restrooms, playground and volleyball nets are right there. This beach is more "in town" so we've found it to be very crowded at times.<br />
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Have I mentioned I love the beach? And this is just the beginning...we haven't even come close to experiencing all there is to see!<br />
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I looked back toward the shore and noticed a man pointing in our direction and I turned to see what looked like a large (<i>very</i> large!) clump of seaweed. Then I noticed that it was moving right toward Brooke! I grabbed her quickly and I think it probably would have hit her if I didn't move her in time.<br />
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I was disappointed that I freaked and didn't stay closer to touch it.</div>
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Now, I'm a bit nervous about the fact that I was oblivious to the existence of a large sea animal right next to us! What if it had been a shark?</div>
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When we first moved here, we enrolled the kids in a surf lesson. We asked the surf instructor about the "shark factor". She explained that sharks don't eat people, they don't hunt people...they want fish. If you happen to be in the path of the fish, you might get "hit". She then went on to explain the wisdom of checking in with the lifeguards, staying away from piers and jetties where people fish and the importance of the "fishy" smell that exists sometimes. These are all warnings that the presence of sharks might be greater. I've also reminded all of our children of how many people we know that have lived here their entire lives and we have yet to meet anyone who's been bitten by a shark.</div>
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I know all of this, but when we returned to that same beach, I have to admit that I felt fear. </div>
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It's interesting that out of all of our children, Brooke was the one with me in the water that day. I used to say that Brooke was "born cautious". This cautiousness, however, had become full on fear by the time she was 2 years old. She <i>hated</i> being outside. She would scream at the shining sun, at the wind in her face, if dirt touched her hands. She went into full panic if she saw any kind of insect. She was terrified of Chuck E Cheese, Mickey Mouse, Red Robin. Any costumed character would create a huge physical reaction...lots of crying, screaming and shaking. It was true fear.</div>
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We took her to the beach for the first time when she was three. I was nervous as we were preparing for the trip...I knew that it could very well be miserable for all of us if she spent the entire time terrified and screaming.</div>
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Our first day on the beach, I held her under the umbrella for the majority of the day. Every little while I would carry her around...letting the sun touch her face, touching her fingers or toes in the water. We pointed out the birds in the sky. I would hold sand in my hand and let her touch it. By the second day she was ready to sit on a towel and touch the sand. She would stand at the edge of the water if we held her hand. Slowly, she became more comfortable. By the end of the week, she was comfortable being at the beach. She still didn't want to be in the water, but she could spend the day with us and enjoy herself.<br />
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That is the trip that turned things for her. It wasn't immediate, but from then on she was more willing to try new things. She gradually became at peace with the world around her.</div>
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Now, many of these fears have dissipated. She hugged Mickey Mouse for the first time last fall. When we go to Disney now (which is only 2 1/2 hrs away from us!!), the character greetings are a high priority to her. Now, she loves being in the water. She is my nature-lover...always observing God's beautiful creation all around us. I was shocked when one day this spring, I picked her up from school and she was telling me how "cool" it was to see a <i>hissing cockroach</i> in her science class!<br />
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I love that I get to watch her grow and explore and figure out what she finds fascinating. When we returned to that same beach a few days after we "swam with the manatees", she was the first one in the water. As I watched her run and splash, I was met with a choice:<br />
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And isn't it the same for all of us? We can stay on the shore, where it's safe...clean...where we feel in control. Or we can jump in and fully experience all that awaits us. The joy and excitement that come with jumping in, over, under the waves. Then, if we go even further, past the breaking point, we find the place where we can float. The peace that comes with floating on the water, gazing up at the blue sky with sun kissing my cheeks. It's such a wonderful place to be!</div>
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So it is with our relationship with God! It's meant to be exciting and joy-filled. Adventurous! And when we relinquish control...when we go deep enough...we are able to float. Float over the waves. Float amidst all the "dangers" that lurk beneath. Not that the dangers aren't there, </div>
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But it's that our trust in the One who <i>overcame all</i> will conquer the fear that <i>could</i> keep us captive.</div>
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We are loved. I am loved. You are loved. And the One who loved us first...JESUS, Who loved us first has come so that we are no longer crippled with fear. We can leave it at the shore and jump in...</div>
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In that post I mentioned that we are about 5 months into our new home in Florida. We searched for about 6 months and when we saw this one, we knew it was it.<br />
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Okay, so Brad knew this was it. I had my heart set on a home just a few miles away from this one that, crazily enough, was even more of a fixer than this one. I'm soo thankful now that we didn't go that route!<br />
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1. Good public elementary school<br />
2. Our own swimming pool (or easy access to one)<br />
3. 4-5 bedrooms<br />
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Pretty reasonable, right?<br />
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Our dream items:<br />
1. Hardwood floors vs tile<br />
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We got ALL of these with this house!<br />
The only downside: we're a bit far from church/work and the beach. But the drive from our home in Colorado was MUCH further from the beach than from this house *wink*<br />
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Okay, and the fact that it needed A LOT of work. Not like major construction...a handful of pretty large projects and then a really long list of "small", but very time consuming ones.<br />
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I'll fill you in on details, including before and afters, in the coming weeks. For now, I'll leave you with this:<br />
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We're five months into our new home: a foreclosed fixer upper that is beautiful and difficult and so-far-from perfect but somehow simply perfect for us.<br />
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We spent our first school semester homeschooling our five children, followed by another semester of homeschooling three (ok, threeish...alright, alright...two and a half. I turned Micah over to playing a few months ago!). We are in the final stretches of registering and landing all five children in schools here in this beautiful town that I still can't believe we live in.</div>
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We're part of a growing, thriving, healthy, exciting <a href="http://gochristfellowship.com/" target="_blank">ministry</a>. After spending much of 17 years in the same place, in the same home even, we are in the full throws of adjusting and stretching and growing...making mistakes and having moments of comfort.</div>
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It's such a warm, fuzzy, wonderful word.</div>
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When I think comfort, I see myself cuddled under a blanket with a fire burning nearby...in our old home in Colorado.</div>
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The same home where Brad and I experienced so many early-marriage-newlywed bickerings and made so many memories.</div>
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I think of unexpected visits from forgiving friends who caught me in my sweats (or...pajamas) mid-day more times than I care to admit.</div>
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When I think comfort, I remember walking into gatherings and prayer meetings at our church...in the same room where we had said "I do" years before.<br />
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And that's what Colorado had become for me. After years of asking the Lord to move us somewhere warm, somewhere near water, somewhere with humidity and salty air, I had settled. I was completely content to view the beautiful mountains of Colorado every day. To watch our children experience kindergarten and graduation from the charter school one mile away from our home. I was digging deep...growing vulnerable with friends in new ways. I had found avenues of ministry, ways of living out some passions that were fun and fulfilling and rewarding. I had what seemed to be a clear path in front of me.</div>
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Until it wasn't clear anymore.</div>
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In the beginning, it was so hard to imagine that God could actually be moving us on to a new thing. We were full of questions: had we done something wrong? had we not stewarded well? how could it possibly be God's plan to move us away from the people we loved so dearly? our family? a church home that we loved so dearly?<br />
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I had come to this conclusion before we even knew where the next place was. I am so thankful that He cares so deeply about my heart...about my growth...that He is willing to watch me struggle. He is willing for me to be confused, upset, even angry at His plan. Because He knows that in the end, it brings US CLOSER. This struggle brings me closer to HIM.</div>
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I once heard someone say, "You're happiest when you're at the center of God's will." However, I believe it is entirely possible to be in the center of God's will and very unhappy about our circumstances. </div>
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God's will does not always equal happiness. He does not walk with us to make us happy. </div>
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He walks with us so that we may become more like Him. </div>
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So that our vision becomes His vision. </div>
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So that our passion for people goes deeper than our personal happiness. </div>
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We were at the center of His will back when Brad wrote that letter almost a year ago. And we weren't happy about it! There was nothing happy about choosing to leave the people we loved so much. </div>
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But there is a peace that comes from walking with Him. From following Him into the pain, into the unknown. There is a peace that goes far beyond happiness and comfort...and this peace leads to a deep joy and satisfaction. It leads to such inner strength and amazement as we watch His plans unfold before our eyes.</div>
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"Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don't try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way." James 1:2-4 MSG<br />
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Mature.</div>
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Not deficient in any way.</div>
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What we all desire, right?</div>
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This is what I contemplate now...here, where God has given me those deep desires I had hidden in my heart. As I walk the beach and taste the salty air and watch my kids splash in the ocean. These seemingly fleshly desires that He that He wrapped up and handed me. I am still amazed at how much joy can come out of so much pain.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-90842087921302183212012-12-19T05:00:00.000-07:002012-12-19T05:00:14.172-07:00{31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way} :: Lesson 31~Doing a Blog Series Will Either Kill You or Grow YouWow! I can't believe it. I actually did it. I have written my first series! I also managed to blog twice a week for the past 4 months (except for those 2 sick days...).<br />
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I have learned so much in this process. So much about myself and also about you! Here are just a few of the things I've gleaned from writing these last 4 months:<br />
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<b>I really enjoy writing, but it is also very hard and so much work!</b> Making myself do this series made me stick to a schedule. Even when I was tired. Even when I felt uninspired. I had deadlines to make and although you are a very forgiving audience, it helped to know that you were waiting for my next post. That you would notice if I went missing. There were times that I would sit down to write and have no idea what to write on. You were my motivation to press on!<br />
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<b>Writing brings out emotions I didn't know were there.</b> There were many times that I would sit down to write and not think about how it was going to affect me. I was very vulnerable and very open and that was painful at times. Sometimes I would have tears streaming down my face as I wrote. Other times I would find myself shaking as I typed, emotion spilling over. There were several posts that had my heart racing and hands trembling as I pressed the "publish" button. Almost every single time, I felt better after I was finished writing. Writing (a blog specifically) can make me feel somewhat anonymous. I learned about myself and this "character" that I play in real life as my fingers rolled on the keyboard. I was shocked at how much I hadn't verbalized before now.<br />
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<b>Blogging let's all kinds of people in.</b> And that's good! I know that by writing these words, I am opening myself up to anyone who happens to type in the address or click a link or perform a search through a search engine. I have talked with people all over the country, and really around the world, who have read from these pages. God has used my heart and my mind and my emotions and my fingers to touch those of you that I never see in every day life...or I have never actually met in person. That's so amazing!<br />
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<b>You have stories too!</b> I can't count how many times I received a long email, facebook message or comment telling me how you relate. Get those stories out! They are meant to be told!<br />
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<b>I really enjoy writing!! </b>I feel more accomplished, stronger, more determined every time I publish a post. Even though it's hard and emotionally draining, somehow I come out a better person on the other side. I will always be a writer.<br />
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So there, it is. {31 Lessons!} On to other adventures...<br />
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In this process, we try to have an open dialogue so that they can see that our lack of trust in them doesn't equal a lack of forgiveness. When we correct our children and they respond by apologizing, we forgive. We forgive, but there are still consequences for the mistakes they've made. We love them and we don't hold a grudge against them, but there is always a process that we must go through in order for them to regain our trust. Once trust is broken, it takes time and a series of right decisions to regain that trust. Forgiveness is always given, while trust must be earned. <br />
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This is similar to our relationship with God. When we are new in our relationship with Him, He doesn't expect much. There is a lot of grace without a lot of responsibility. As we grow in our relationship with Him, His trust in us grows. Sometimes He'll test us. He'll give us more responsibility than we've had before and He watches how we respond. If we stay close to Him, reliant on Him and handle situations with wisdom, He gives us even more. More influence, more blessing, more responsibility. We read about this in the parable of the talents:<br />
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master said, ‘Well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been
faithful in handling this small amount, so now I will give you many more
responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!'"</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">Matthew 25:23 NLT</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">However, we also read about what happens when we respond immaturely or poorly.</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj"><span class="text Matt-25-29" id="en-NLT-24011"><span class="woj">"To
those who use well what they are given, even more will be given, and
they will have an abundance. But from those who do nothing, even what
little they have will be taken away.</span></span>"</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">Matthew 25:29 NLT</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">God tests us to see how He can trust us. So what does God say about forgiveness? His Word is very clear: He is a forgiving God.</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">"But if we confess our sins to him, </span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">and to cleanse us from all wickedness."</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">1 John 1:9 NLT</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">If we read on about forgiveness, we see that He not only forgives us, but He also requires us to forgive others.</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">"Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, </span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you."</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">Ephesians 4:32</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">And I think this may be where many of us, as Christians, can become confused. We read clearly, over and over, that God requires us to forgive, just as He has forgiven us. However, we are able to forgive freely without extending trust freely.</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">The meaning of the word "forgive" is:</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-25-23" id="en-NLT-24005"><span class="woj">"To excuse for a fault or an offense; pardon.</span></span><b> </b> </div>
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To renounce anger or resentment against.<b>"</b></div>
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When we forgive someone, we are releasing them from our anger. We decide that we won't hold any resentment against them. I find an easy way to test this is to say their name and see how it rolls off of my tongue. Is it hard to talk about them without telling all their faults? Am I able to pray for them without asking God to shovel heaping coals on their head? Am I able to ask for God to bless<i> </i>them?</div>
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Conversely, when we look at "trust", it means:</div>
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"Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing.<br />
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One in which confidence is placed.</div>
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Reliance on something in the future; hope."</div>
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When we trust someone, we are in a mutual understanding of roles and expectations. We have a reliance on them for an expected outcome. When we trust someone we can rely on their integrity, their character.<br />
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I think it is fully possible to forgive someone, to release them from my anger, even to pray for God to bless them, but not put my trust in them. When someone has broken trust, it takes a series of positive, wise decisions to gain that trust back. Forgiveness is an issue of my heart and an issue between me and God. Trust is an issue between me and another person. God requires me to forgive other people. On the contrary, God requires wisdom when I place my trust in someone. This is not to say that we should walk around in judgement or with a critical spirit. But, in every relationship: close friends, a significant other, with our leaders we are to test people according to God's Word to ensure credibility and safety in relationships. Love all and trust with wisdom.<br />
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Where are you on this? Do you think there is a difference between forgiveness and trust? Do you find it's hard to offer one without the other?</div>
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I am headed to the doctor in the morning and will hopefully be feeling better soon! Watch for Lesson 30~I will post it in the next couple of days.<br />
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But Brad and I weren't there that day. As I attended the services yesterday, I couldn't help but think back on the past 6 1/2 years...<br />
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Brad and I moved to Birmingham, AL in August of 2006, after serving at New Life for 10 years. You may remember <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/11/31-lessons-learned-hard-way-lesson_19.html" target="_blank">our story of meeting there and marrying there</a>. We were in the midst of growing our family there but after a prompting (that really lasted 4 years) from the Lord, moved to serve with another church. Several months later we were answering questions about our move. Had we known about all that was going on with our pastor? No, we hadn't KNOWN anything. We were following the direction of God to move. That November, when our pastor was accused of a "moral failure", we were as surprised as everyone else.<br />
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Those two events, the move and the "scandal" that happened, began the hardest 2 years of our married life. I was 7 months pregnant with our 4th child when we moved. We left almost all of our family in Colorado and moved to a city where we knew only a few friends. Our Colorado house didn't sell and our finances began to take a dive.<br />
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Brad was overseas that Thursday when the news broke that things at New Life would never be the same. I remember our Birmingham pastor calling to check on me. As I wept over the phone, he assured me that "everything would be okay." I didn't know how that could be true, but I held onto the strength that those words provided. Brad and I didn't sleep that entire weekend. I had a 3 week old baby to attend to and my other 3 children to feed and care for. I would stay up at night to pray and talk with Brad, who's time zone was the opposite of mine. I was on the phone a lot~getting reports and updates and crying with friends from home.<br />
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The months that followed were extremely hard. Our hearts were breaking. The personal hurt was one thing, but to watch our closest friends and family struggle to keep the church family together was especially difficult. There were accusations and hurt feelings and people leaving...it was everything I had ever heard about when churches struggle and we were experiencing it. The media frenzy around our extended family was something I had never seen before. And we were watching it from afar, not able to actually hold and hug those that we love so much. I spent a lot of time praying for strength and protection for our family members. I also prayed for my own heart to stay clean. No one knew how to walk through this situation and people made mistakes. But I truly believe that everyone was doing what they felt was right. The people of New Life Church were at the top of the priority list. Every conversation, every meeting, centered around the idea that this was God's church and these were God's people and that we have a responsibility to care for them. I know now that this resulted in hurts of other kinds which is hard too. However, I know these people personally and I know that everyone was doing their best to get through and make the best decisions they could.<br />
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We were watching all of this and at the same time struggling on our own. We had 4 very small children and were far away from family. Our finances were at an extreme low and we were literally living off credit. We moved 4 times in 18 months, unable to keep up with rent and bills. We truly loved the people at our new church (and still have many wonderful, close friends there) but were unable to fully invest ourselves because of all the turmoil. During those 18 months I felt as if Brad and I, and this large yet tiny family we had, were on an island, surrounded by beautiful water and beaches but unable to enjoy any of it because we were starving. Starving for stability and direction.<br />
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When I look back on it now, it seems more like we were wrapped tightly, like a baby swaddled in a blanket or a caterpillar in a cocoon. Even though we struggled and wanted out, God was protecting us and strengthening us. Through all the hardship, He really had us in the palm of His hand the whole time. <br />
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On December 9th, 2007, we were just returning home after a full morning at church when Brad received a phone call. Had we seen the news? Did we know what was happening at home?<br />
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We sat on our couch in silence as we turned on the live broadcast from New Life, our home church, showing emergency vehicles, news crews and SWAT teams. A man had entered the campus and shot several people in a violent rage.<br />
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I felt the blood drain from my face as I reached for Brad, who was already on the phone trying to reach family. Where were his brothers and their families? Were they safe? Why was this happening? Hadn't our church been through enough?<br />
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That night, we talked to Brad's brother who recounted all of the details. The stunning news that there was a shooter, the moments of fear as he tried desperately to find his son, the story of his other brother hiding in a dark attic with his wife, 2 small children and friends...it was horrifying.<br />
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When Brad hung up the phone, he verbalized what we both already knew: it was time to go home.<br />
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He had a conversation with our pastor just a few weeks before, processing our situation. The inability to settle down, our house still unsold. We were now expecting our 5th child and were looking at another move as the family we were renting from wanted their house back. And most of all, our pastor explained this "rose colored glasses" phenomenon. The fact that we were even considering moving back to New Life had to be a miracle...most people knew New Life was on her last leg. This shooting would be the end of that church as we knew it.<br />
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But somehow we still loved this church. This body of believers that is so STRONG. So resilient. We knew these people and we knew that they would get back up and move on. We talked it over with our pastor and he agreed. It was time to go home.<br />
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Now here we are. We've been back at New Life for almost 5 years. We've stabilized our finances and our little family is growing. We love this church. New Lifers are strong and prayerful and worshipful and reliant on the only One who gives us strength. New Lifers know that our confidence doesn't come from any man. It comes from a personal, real relationship with this God who has held us through it all.<br />
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He has never been absent, even for a moment. Here's a song that Brad wrote, reflecting on the past few years...<br />
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This post is part of the series {31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way}. Did you miss a lesson? <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/31-lessons-learned-hard-way.html" target="_blank">Catch up here.</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-27440014895773383902012-12-05T10:42:00.000-07:002012-12-05T10:43:59.350-07:00{31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way} :: Lesson 28~The Best Gift I Can GiveI'm writing you from the quiet of my home this morning. Christmas music playing, my "home for Christmas" candle burning, tree lights on.<br />
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Sounds nice, doesn't it? If only every day of this season were as calm as this morning.<br />
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There are so many things to do...<br />
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Christmas parties to prepare for and attend.<br />
Gifts to buy and wrap.<br />
Decorating and baking.<br />
Christmas photos and cards to send.<br />
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and on top of all of that...<br />
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Christmas services, plays, programs, concerts.<br />
Special outfits to buy and wash and iron for each.<br />
Extra rehearsals and snacks to bring.<br />
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This is all added to the everyday craziness of life. I know you feel it too. You have your own list. Many shared with ours, some that are different.<br />
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Why does this month have to be so crazy? To be honest, many times I feel like I am barely making it through this season. I SO look forward to December 26th when it is all over. I've been so tired by the time we get to Christmas day that I make it through the day in a haze of exhaustion, fueled by coffee all day long.<br />
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Why is it that we, as Christians, feel a need to make this month so much more celebratory than every other month of the year? Shouldn't we be celebrating all year long?<br />
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Don't we know this truth every day of the year?<br />
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This miracle,<br />
the gift of a perfect sacrifice,<br />
born to a virgin...<br />
is it only true on December 25th? Or MORE true? <br />
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The true meaning of Christmas, celebrating the birth of our Savior, giving to others, deliberate time spent with those we love...shouldn't we be doing with our every day lives?<br />
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So why do we give into the craziness of a culture that has not grasped this Truth? Shouldn't we, as Christians who follow this Christ every day, resist the hustle and bustle and busyness of this season?<br />
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This is the darkest time of the year. The sun sets behind our mountains by 5pm every night. And we light lamps and candles and tree lights to warm the atmosphere in our home.<br />
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And shouldn't we be doing the same in a culture of darkness? Shouldn't we be light to the dark? To the hurting and needy around us?<br />
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And how can we accomplish this if we are frazzled and stressed? How can we truly love those around us if we are preoccupied with to-do lists and shopping lists and...exhaustion? Are we spending the holidays running on adrenaline and caffeine or are we truly giving our hearts and our time to our God who started it all? To our families who long for our attention and time over all else?<br />
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Things are a bit different in our house this year. We are still participating in all of the activities of the season. My kids are in school, which comes with extra Christmas activities and parties and concerts and gifts. We are in the midst of children's musical and Christmas Eve rehearsals at church. We decorated our tree (and might I just add that it's smaller and more sparse than in years past? Easier to get in the house and decorate so that we had time for other things?) We're in the midst of gift buying and wrapping.<br />
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But my intentions are different this year. We are taking time in these dark evenings to quiet ourselves. To read Scripture and enjoy the anticipation of Advent. I am taking time to look my children in the eyes and hold them close and listen to hearts.<br />
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I am giving them the gift of me. The gift of a mom focused on them. A wife with a quiet spirit, a still demeanor. It doesn't come naturally for me, especially at Christmas, and I'm not perfect. But I am trying. So that when they come home from the busy of school and work and church and parties, they find peace. So that they can find rest and comfort in the haven of our home.<br />
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What is a way you are focusing your intention this Christmas?<br />
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My daughter Brooke says these wonderful "I love you more than..." phrases. Like "I love you more than ice cream!" or "I love you more than pink!"<br />
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I love Uganda more than coffee and chocolate.<br />
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I went last year and then had the opportunity to go again this year. When we got home from our trip this year, Brad said he saw our missions opportunities "expanding". He wants New Life Worship to be serving around the world. I assumed that meant I would coordinate some other trips and lead another trip to Uganda.<br />
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But every time I talked about it, I had this little, icky feeling in my stomach.<br />
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And then, on a day that started like any other, everything changed. During my prayer time that morning, I heard a "no". Not an audible "no". But a feeling kind of "no". I knew what He was saying. I knew He was telling me to go a different direction next summer. But the thought of it was nauseating. Our contacts over there are only stronger now. I knew I could lead a trip and see all of these wonderful people again and I would love it. Why would He say no?<br />
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I ended my prayer time by making a little deal with God. "We" agreed we would talk about it more the next day. I met Brad for lunch that day. We were chit-chatting and talking about the goings on of his day. And I was mostly paying attention, but I had this nagging feeling that just wouldn't go away. I knew I should talk to him about my feelings about Uganda, but I knew that once the words left my mouth, there was no taking them back. If this was what God was saying, and I admitted it out loud, I was stuck. I would either have to admit that I wasn't going to Uganda this year or admit that I hadn't really heard from the Lord.<br />
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Finally, through tears, with my heart racing, I blurted out the words. "I think that um, maybe, that I'm, um, maybe not supposed to go to Uganda next year."<br />
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My wonderful, understanding, practical husband. He looked at me with such understanding and asked why I might think that. Hmmm...why did I think that? I didn't have a reason. Except that maybe God was saying "no". I told him about my little deal that I had made with God. That we would talk about it more tomorrow. And we kind of left it at that.<br />
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Except that I couldn't. I cried all day. I was angry. I went on a drive and told God that I was confused and angry. I had finally found an avenue of ministry that fit me. That feels so right and so good. Why would He take this away from me?<br />
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The next morning, I awoke with the question lingering, burning in my heart. What was the answer? Was He really saying "no"?<br />
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I turned on the Bible-reading app on my phone. As I was reading, I came across this:<br />
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I know! It couldn't have been more clear.<br />
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*Disclaimer: it's always important to take into context Scripture as God speaks it to us. So just as I don't have any "family" in Uganda, I don't think God was saying to actually "forget" the people over there that I love so dearly.* <br />
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I surrendered. Through tears. And not the silent, weepy, kind of tears. Like the bawling, ugly cry, kind of tears. I told Him that I don't want to go anywhere He isn't leading me. I have learned that He is a good God. A good Father who only desires what's best for His children. He knows so much more than me and I will choose to trust. I will choose to obey.<br />
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I went into the next room and showed Brad the verse on my phone. We both laughed about how completely obvious God's answer was. God knows me well enough to know that it needed to be obvious. There's no wiggle room or getting out of this one.<br />
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I had already scheduled to go to breakfast with one of my dearest friends that morning. As I cried all my makeup off and gulped down coffee, I explained to her all that was happening. And as I explained it that wonderful feeling came that always does with obedience...peace.<br />
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Although it was hard (and still is, to be honest) there is such a peace in knowing that I am going in His direction. I know the difference between following Him and following my own way. At this point, it's about as blatant to me as going outside on a cold, Colorado-ey day with or without a coat and gloves. One makes me feel prepared and protected. The other leaves me feeling frazzled, shivering and cold.<br />
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So, I'm not going to Uganda next summer.<br />
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I don't think I'm done with Uganda. Or with Africa. But it's just not for next year.<br />
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I don't know the why.<br />
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But I do know that He told me to give up a business that was successful when it didn't make sense. And it was to prepare me for my first ever trip to Uganda...that changed my life.<br />
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I do know that He took my second trip to Uganda and completely wrecked any plans I had so that He could create the trip that He wanted. And the experiences that I had and the people that I got to meet are treasures that I will always hold dear in my heart. Looking back, I wouldn't have it any other way.<br />
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He loves me and is FOR me and is working for my good. His plans are only good and I'm beyond second guessing Him at this point.<br />
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What has developed since then is that I am going to WALES! I have never been there before and I have no idea what to expect, but I am excited for all that God has planned for me, our team, and the people that we will come into contact with.<br />
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See? All those times that I've told you that this life with God is such an adventure? It's really true! He has such great, big plans for each and every one of us. He has wonderful plans for you, too. But the key is to ask and obey.<br />
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What (big, scary, hard, crazy thing) might He be asking you to do?<br />
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Would you like to go on missions with New Life Worship? We have trips planned for Uganda, Swaziland, Germany, Wales and El Salvador all taking place next summer. Contact me by commenting or email if you'd like more information!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-47863608982020809712012-11-28T09:58:00.001-07:002012-11-28T09:58:31.442-07:00{31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way} :: Lesson 26 ~ The Good Guy Always WinsAs I mentioned in my <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/11/i-hope-you-had-wonderful-thanksgiving.html" target="_blank">previous post</a>, we were on vacation last week for Thanksgiving. One of the days, we went with the whole family to see the movie "Rise of the Guardians" (which I highly recommend!).<br />
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I'll try not to give too much away. It's your typical kids' movie format, good vs evil. There were a few scenes that were kind of scary for our little ones. My little Brookie made her way down the aisle to sit in my lap. As she settled in, I whispered in her ear to try to calm her, "Do you think Jack's gonna win?" She looked up at me with a big smile and said, "Yes! Because Jack's the good guy."<br />
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What a wonderful childish worldview she has. And how accurate.<br />
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I have been in the depths before and wondered if I would make it out.<br />
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I have felt despair, felt conquered, felt small.<br />
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And these are the works of the bad guy. The guy who tells lies and makes us think things will never get better.<br />
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But, the sun always rises again. The world continues to spin. Life goes on. Those dark days don't last forever. Because I know the One who gives HOPE.<br />
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I can live in hope and peace. I can live as a conqueror. Because the good guy ALWAYS wins. In the end, He wins. In my today, I can surrender and let Him win. I can focus on the One unseen...who is always there, even in the despair.<br />
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At one point during the movie, the characters are talking about evil and bad dreams and how those things will always exist. And then one of the characters gains his confidence and boldly proclaims, "Yes, it will always exist. But I don't have to FEAR it."<br />
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And isn't that the truth?? The bad guy exists. Evil exists. But we don't have to fear it!<br />
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<span class="text 2Tim-1-7" id="en-AMP-29815">Because the Good Guy always wins!!</span> <br />
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I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving! Ours was filled with family and fun and laughter...and chaos and bickering here and there. We gathered in Austin, TX with my husband's side of the family. There were 29 of us together for Thanksgiving dinner...16 being children. There is rarely a dull, or quiet, moment!</div>
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On Thanksgiving morning, I awoke with an exciting, giddy feeling. I was excited for the day, of course, but it went beyond that. By about mid-morning I was overcome and went to our guest room to take a breath and reflect. </div>
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I am just so very thankful. This has truly been a year of miracles. Miracles in our church, miracles in our church finances & personal finances. Miracles in our family. And I have been very aware of each and every one and have been sure to thank our good Father who provides so amazingly for his children. </div>
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But on Thanksgiving day I realized that there have been other miracles that I had not given attention to. Miracles in my own heart. Miracles in the way I view God. This has been a year if tremendous growth for me...many of you are witnesses to this as you follow<a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/31-lessons-learned-hard-way.html" target="_blank"> this series</a>. But there is a new reliance, a new closeness, a new God-confidence that is rising in me. A hunger to be right smack dab in the middle of what He's doing. A desire to cooperate fully with His plan. Every. Single. Day. </div>
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It's come from mornings on the porch, reading and crying and asking "<a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/09/31-lessons-learned-hard-way-lesson.html" target="_blank">how can people disappoint us so..."</a></div>
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It came through years of feeling isolated and alone, sure that no one around could understand what we were going through. </div>
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It came through a moment on the beach, staring out at the ocean, pounding my fists in the air, telling Him that He might be asking too much. </div>
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And then finally surrendering and remembering the moment on the bus when I told Him I wanted Him to use me MORE. To use me EVERY day. </div>
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On Thanksgiving day, I thanked Him for the hard times. For the stretching. For the growth that only comes through hard lessons. </div>
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We can choose the easy. Stay stagnant. And when the hard times come (as they always, eventually, do), we can grow bitter and angry. Or we can grow strong and thankful. </div>
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I will thank Him for the opportunity to grow. To feel. To be ALIVE and feel the bitterness of hurt and pain and the sweetness of triumph and peace. </div>
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And the wonderful balance, the hard choosing to experience them at the same time. Can we experience triumph and peace in the midst of hurt and pain? Can we smile through the tears, knowing that He is doing a deep, strong work in our hearts? This is what I'm longing for. To truly consider it pure joy when I face trials. To know that He is always good, even when the circumstances are not. To stay pure in heart when the impulse says to become angry and resentful. </div>
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To be found blameless in His sight and thankful always. For each breath is a gift...how wonderful it is that He gives us two...</div>
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(A few of these references are from <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=one+thousand+gifts" target="_blank">Ann Voskamp's book "One Thousand Gifts</a>. I am on the road in the boonies of Texas and I gave my copy away to a dear friend so I am currently unable to post the links. It's a great book that changed my life and a MUST read in my opinion!)<br />
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This post is part of the series {31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way}. Did you miss a lesson? <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/31-lessons-learned-hard-way.html" target="_blank">Catch up here.</a> </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-8038367181883629432012-11-21T05:00:00.000-07:002012-11-21T07:34:19.448-07:00{31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way} :: Lesson 24~Engagement Story {His Version} ~ God Has Mercy on Indecisive GuysHi everyone, this is Brad. I'm a guest on Andrea's blog today. She told her engagement story to all of you on <a href="http://www.adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/11/31-lessons-learned-hard-way-lesson_19.html" target="_blank">Monday</a>. So now I'm gonna tell my side of the story.<br />
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It was back in the summer of '96 when I first met Andrea Gilmore. And she is correct. We met whilst she was showing her belly button ring to her friends. I walked up on a group of girls, and since I was the new guy in town, I was trying to meet as many people as possible. So I stuck my head in a group of girls and said hi, and there it was, out for everyone to see. Her belly button ring. I made a funny joke and then moved on to the next group of kids.<br />
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I really got to know her better when she participated in the internship at church. I had a girlfriend at the time, so I didn't really see her as girlfriend material. But I thought she was nice (That's not the same as saying she had a really nice personality just in case you were wondering *wink*).<br />
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In the fall Andrea decided to go off to college. All of us who had worked with her in the internship were sad to see her go. She had become a valued member of the team and we were certainly going to feel her loss. She and I had become good friends and would stay in touch as she went away to school. During that time I had broken up with my girlfriend. I know you can see where this is going. The stars were beginning to align!<br />
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She and I had developed our friendship during her time at school. I think it is true that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but I couldn't really think of her and I in a relationship because of the age difference. The struggle in my heart was beginning.<br />
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Over the Christmas Holidays she came home. We hung out. We kissed. Boom! There were fireworks. It was on! But not really. <br />
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In her second semester, she developed kidney stones and had to be hospitalized. I happened to be out there on a trip with several of the pastors from our church so we got to see each other. Being the pastoral guy that I am, I made a hospital visit to see her, and spent a good bit of the afternoon there. I had started to look at her in a different light by this time, so it was kind of interesting. I prayed with her and went on my way. But I knew something was a little different.<br />
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It wasn't long after that that she decided to withdraw from school because she had gotten so behind in her studies because of the hospital stay. She told me she was coming home, and I decided to do something about it. I asked her dad if I could bring her home from school and he obliged. I wanted to see if there really was something there, and I thought this might do the trick. I picked her up and brought her home and we decided to date. After about a month, I called it off because it didn't feel right to me. Thus continued the struggle in my heart.<br />
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The next couple of years were pretty rough. She came on staff in the Youth Department, and wouldn't you know, she was assigned to help me! We continued growing our friendship and did most everything together. Ministry was great, personal life was not. I got into this cycle of wanting to hang out with her, but not wanting people to know that we were hanging out together. You can see the problem here. This went on for about 2 years. To make a long story not quite as long, let's just say I was not fully in touch with my feelings.<br />
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In the summer of 1999, we decided to take the Youth Choir on a 3 week mission trip to Europe. Andrea and I led the team of 50 kids with a hand full of moms, and my 1 lone guy, Rob Stennett. To this day, Rob is my hero! Anyway, it was on that trip that I fell in love with Andrea. She had planned the whole trip, and even had another kidney surgery right before. She came 4 days later than the rest of us, but she came. She was tough. I liked that. I watched her interact with the students, lead prayer meetings, and get us all around Europe. She was amazing. And she was only 21. I thought to myself, "what would she be like at 30?" I liked what I thought the answer was. I was falling in love.<br />
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We came home from that trip, and unfortunately, went back to more of the same relational dynamic. Let's just throw it out there. I was a loser. I couldn't get myself to admit I loved her. It wasn't until I was on another trip to Turkey in the fall that something changed.<br />
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I was talking with Andrea who was at home taking care of all the business in the office. I called her on her day off and asked how she was doing. She said she was going to Denver later with a friend. I named a couple of girlfriends to which she responded "no." She was going with a boy! We hung up and I got really mad. I didn't know why I got really mad, but we all know that I was jealous! I know jealousy is wrong, but in this instance it really helped me out! I was coming to some conclusions about our relationship.<br />
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We were in the airport in Athens, Greece getting ready to come home early. All the pastors were talking about how they were surprising their wives. I said, "I want a wife to surprise." That led to a conversation where 3 questions were posed to me about Andrea. I answered yes to all 3 questions. "So, what's the problem?", they said. To which I responded, "Nothing!" We went immediately from the ticket counter to a jewelry store in the terminal where I purchased a diamond ring that I was going to give to Andrea upon my return. I called her from the airplane on one of those gigantic phones and asked her to pick me up at the airport. After some persuasion, she said she would. My course was set. I just had to win her over.<br />
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I spent the next 4 days winning her heart because I had kind of lost it with all my indecisiveness. We went out every night and I told her things would be different. And they were. I bought her flowers that she took to work. The card read "I love you and I don't care who knows." She was beginning to believe me. I asked her dad for permission to marry her. He said they had been waiting for me to come around. I guess everybody knew before I did. Why am I always the last one to know?<br />
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I got home from Turkey/Greece on a Wednesday. On Saturday, I took her to the park where we had a nice picnic. We went for a walk in the woods, and I knelt down on one knee, took out the ring I had purchased in Greece and asked her to marry me. Freakiest moment of my life. She didn't know what to say. I didn't know what to say. I think we both screamed! It was like an out of body experience. We gathered our stuff and headed to town as the newly engaged couple. We called family and friends and began to spread the news. It started to sink in. And it felt so good. I knew that Andrea was a great woman, and I didn't want to miss out on a life with her. That thought pushed me over the edge.<br />
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We got married 2 and a half months later on New Year's Eve 1999! What a celebration that was. I remember it as one of the best moments of my life. We had so much fun with our family and friends, and were excited about our new life together. We knew it wouldn't always be easy, but we knew we would get to do it together and that made all the difference.<br />
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So what's my lesson to be learned here? I think there are several. But here's the one I'll land on. God is merciful to guys who can't make up their minds about marriage and put their potential wives through the ringer. Hey guys, that's not a license! It's an encouragement to figure it out and get your business in order so God can bless it instead of have to have mercy on it! Either way, I'm grateful for my wife, my kids, and the life we have together. I would never have dreamed it this way. But that's why He's God and I'm not. His dreams for us are always better than the ones we dream for ourselves!<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "Courier New",Courier,monospace;">Brad </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: "Courier New",Courier,monospace;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">This post is part of the series {<span style="font-size: small;">31 Lessons Learned the Hard <span style="font-size: small;">Way}. Did you miss a lesson? <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/31-lessons-learned-hard-way.html" target="_blank">Catch up here.</a></span></span></span></span> </span></span><br />
<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-17262100537104256242012-11-19T05:00:00.000-07:002012-11-20T10:37:58.389-07:00{31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way} :: Lesson 23~Engagement Story {Her Version} ~ The Right Man is Worth the WaitThank you all for your kind words regarding <a href="http://www.adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/11/31-lessons-learned-hard-way-lesson.html" target="_blank">last week's post</a>. I am thankful for each one of you who wrote to encourage me and especially those of you who shared your own stories! We're in this together and there is strength that comes from being honest and open about our struggles.<br />
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This week is going to be a bit lighter and fun! <br />
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I've mentioned before that Brad and I never officially dated. But I have never told you all the whole story. So here goes, with all the juicy details *wink*...<br />
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The first time we ever met was in the summer of 1996. I was an 18-year old, new Christ-follower, and still pretty rough around the edges. Brad was 28 and just off the road. He had been traveling with Truth and had decided to settle down and get a real job (just kidding, Honey!!). He was the new junior high student pastor. We were at a youth meeting and I was showing some of my friends my new belly button piercing. Brad walked by, stuck his face in our circle and said "What's going on over here?". I quickly lowered my shirt and told him to stop staring at my tummy. He had some funny response like "Well, stop showing it to everyone!".<br />
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We always got along really well. But I didn't view him as "dating" potential for me. He was, as I said, 10 years older than me. He was the youth pastor and the newest, most-eligible bachelor around our church. There was a lot of buzz when he moved here. I was pretty new to the church myself, but I was around enough to know that people were talking about him. The ladies (and girls) all thought he was cute and great marriage material. The guys all thought he was really cool (although dressed a little too preppy) and everyone knew he was an amazing singer. (I know it sounds like I'm bragging...maybe I am...but it's really true!).<br />
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I enrolled in our local university that fall, deciding to stay close to home until I was sure of what I wanted to do with my life. I had a plan early on in my senior year of high school, but then I found the Lord (or really He found me) and it changed everything I had thought about what I wanted to do. I stayed really involved at the church, in the youth group and continued getting to know everyone there better...including Brad.<br />
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In January of '97, I decided to take a semester off of school and intern full time at the church. There were 7 of us and they divided us up between the senior high and junior high groups. And yep, I was placed in the junior high group with Brad. We had so much fun, coordinating retreats, special events and summer camp. We all took a road trip to California at the conclusion of our internship and I remember sitting shotgun while Brad drove the 15-passenger van. We talked and laughed and had a lot of fun.<br />
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I decided to go to Oklahoma for school that fall. Many of my friends were going and it seemed like it was the best choice for me. My heart was for ministry and it seemed this might be my best route. My friends on staff at the church asked me to stay, but I didn't think it was the best decision. They had fun joking with me about how I would be homesick and calling them everyday. John, the youth pastor, actually bet me that I couldn't go 2 weeks without calling. I took the bet. Later, Brad told me that I could call him instead.<br />
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My experience at school was really great. I didn't so much love the school part (I still didn't know what I wanted to study) but I really enjoyed the experience. It was a Christian school and every week at chapel they brought in different preachers and teachers. I was learning so much about the Lord and about His people. God was wooing me, bringing me closer to Him and I would have these amazing encounters with Him. I loved calling or writing Brad and telling him all about it. He was always so encouraging and had really great insight about all that I was experiencing.<br />
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I came home from school for a week during fall break. The youth department was having a week of dedicated prayer times in the morning. I was sitting and praying in our youth chapel one morning when Brad passed by in front of me. The Lord spoke to me and told me that Brad was my husband! I was completely shocked! I felt like our relationship had grown to a friendship level--I no longer viewed him as the pastor way older than me, but as a good friend. But I was interested in a guy from school and was actually enjoying getting to know, and date, different guys. I wasn't looking to get into a serious relationship and I never assumed it would be with Brad!<br />
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It snowed and snowed that weekend (if you're from Colorado you may remember, or have heard of, the blizzard of '97). We had so much snow that we couldn't open the doors of the church. We had all been up there for a junior high lock-in...and we were literally locked-in! I was supposed to drive back to school that weekend, but obviously couldn't. On Saturday night, I was sitting in the youth offices with John (the youth pastor I mentioned above) and he asked about my "love life". I was open with him and told him I was enjoying dating at school. And then I mentioned Brad. I felt my face flush as I told John about how our relationship had changed. I didn't mention the part about God speaking to me, though. I was a bit nervous that I had made it up. He smiled and nodded as I talked and then told me that he and Brad had talked about me and that Brad had acknowledged the change in our relationship as well. The conversation didn't go much further than that, but I left feeling like maybe I had really heard from the Lord.<br />
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A few weeks later when I was back at school, one of my closest friends called and told me that he had overheard Brad and John talking about me and that John told Brad about the conversation we had. I was furious! I was supposed to go home for Thanksgiving and now I couldn't imagine going home and acting like everything was normal. Had I ruined my friendship with Brad? I called John and asked him about it. He was honest and told me it was true. I was so mad...and he actually thought it was funny! He laughed and told me that everything was going to be fine and that they all couldn't wait to see me when I came home. That made me even more mad and even more nervous about seeing Brad.<br />
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I didn't call or write Brad after that...I just couldn't imagine facing him. The night before I was supposed to drive home, he called me. He didn't address the "talk" he had had with John. It was pretty short and light and he said he was excited to see me and asked if we could talk when I came home. I told him that would be great and that I was excited to see him too.<br />
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We spent a lot of time together during Thanksgiving break. On my last night there, he brought up his conversation with John. He told me that he was interested in me too and that we should just be open to whatever what might happen. His exact words were, "I'm not saying let's date but I'm not saying let's not."<br />
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Not confusing at all, right?<br />
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We talked a few times on the phone in those weeks after Thanksgiving. When I came home for Christmas break, we saw each other almost every day. We were alone sometimes, but most of the time we were with friends. One night, after we had all been together at a friend's house, he kissed me. Ok, so I'll leave *some* details out but I'll just say that I left that night knowing that this was the man of my dreams and that we would live happily ever after.<br />
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And it's true. But it didn't happen right away.<br />
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I went back to school and he didn't call for 2 weeks! He tells me now that 2 weeks isn't that long and that I shouldn't have taken it so seriously...but guys let me tell you, waiting 2 weeks to call is never a good thing unless you're trying to communicate that you're "just not that into her"! He apologized and said he had been busy moving into his new house. I told him that was no excuse and that it was lame to not have called. We moved on, but things didn't move at the pace I originally thought they were going to. He was very nonchalant and noncommittal. I started thinking that I had read him all wrong.<br />
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He came out to my school a few weeks later with some of the other pastors for a conference. We went for a drive and he told me he wasn't wanting to get into a long-distance relationship and that we should not continue the way we had. This was upsetting for me, but I understood and agreed that we'd stay friends. I was already contemplating a move back home in order to take a position at the church, so we decided that we would just see what happened.<br />
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Two days later, while he was still in Oklahoma, I woke up in excruciating pain. My friend rushed me to the hospital where they diagnosed me with a kidney stone. It was so large that I would have to have surgery to have it removed. Brad came to the hospital and stayed with me through that day while they ran tests. We planned for surgery a few days later. Brad's flight home was for the next day. I assured him that I would be fine and we said goodbye.<br />
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He called to check in on me and sent flowers after my surgery. He was so sweet and caring as I recovered.<br />
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The whole kidney-stone ordeal lasted for about two weeks which resulted in me missing a lot of classes. When I was finally recovered, I had a decision to make. It was going to be very difficult to make up the work, but not impossible. I could work really hard to make up all of the missed school work to finish up the semester or I could withdraw. In light of my wanting to take the church position back home, I decided to withdraw.<br />
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Brad called and asked if he could fly out and drive me home. He said he had talked to my parents and wanted to begin officially dating me. Of course I said yes!<br />
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The drive home with Brad was so fun. I felt like this was finally it...the happily ever after I was dreaming of.<br />
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Not so fast!<br />
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Life was so crazy when I got home. The position I was wanting at the church didn't turn out to be right for me. I had just dropped out of school and was living with my parents. It seemed everyone at the church was watching Brad and me, waiting to see what was going to happen. I had random people that I didn't know stopping me to ask about our relationship. I felt like the world was spinning and I couldn't find my direction.<br />
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After about a month of craziness, Brad broke things off with me. I felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest. Wasn't he supposed to be my husband? Why weren't things working the way I thought they would?<br />
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Although we weren't officially dating, we still saw a lot of each other. We were in the same group of friends and we were all working at the church, even though I was volunteering. I took a job answering phones at a local non-profit and started praying about what my next move might be.<br />
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A couple of months later, in the summer of '98, John and Brad offered me a job at the church. I would be an administrator in the youth department, focusing on junior high youth ministry.<br />
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The next year was a mix of ups and downs. I really loved my job. I loved the students we were getting to work with. I ran small groups, went to football games, coordinated retreats, ran rehearsals for our youth choir, went to summer camps...it really was my dream job. Anything I could dream up to do with these kids, I could do and it was just so fun. I also really enjoyed working with Brad. We did get along really well. We worked together really well and I just loved being with him. I was completely in love with him and he, and pretty much everyone else, knew it.<br />
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We would talk every now and then about "us" and it always came down to him not being sure. To be honest, this was heartbreaking for me. I knew I loved him and wanted to marry him. I knew I had heard from the Lord sitting in that chapel, but he didn't seem to be in on the secret. So, I waited. I cried a lot. I prayed a lot. I had one close friend (hi, Rachel!) that I confided in...although I never told her about God speaking to me. She would always say, "One of these days you'll be done and you'll walk away." I couldn't imagine that being true. I couldn't imagine ever walking away from Brad.<br />
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In the summer of '99, we planned a three week trip to Europe with our youth choir. It was my responsibility to plan all of the details of the trip and I loved every minute of it. We ended up with a team of 50 students and 10 leaders with a trip planned for France, England and Germany, one week each.<br />
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A few days before we were scheduled to leave, I woke up in the middle of the night with that all-familiar, excruciating pain. My mom took me to the emergency room where Brad met us. The doctor confirmed that it was another kidney stone and I would need surgery.<br />
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We were supposed to leave for Europe in less than a week! I was so upset. I couldn't imagine missing this trip--after I had spent so much time praying and planning for it. We arranged the surgery date, the after-care and then changed my flight so that I would meet the team 4 days late.<br />
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Although I was not fully recovered, I took some pain pills with me and met our team in Paris, France. The whole trip was wonderful. We had such a great team and it was so fun watching these young students minister with such boldness. We also saw so many great sights in Europe. I remember standing on the Eiffel Tower with our group. It was a breathtaking view and I couldn't help but imagine what it might be like if I was there alone with Brad.<br />
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That three week stretch was the longest Brad and I went without spending time alone or talking about the "us" issue. He was completely focused on the team and the ministry of the trip. I admired that and grew a new level of respect for him during that time. He led with such authority and confidence. Because we weren't spending any "personal" time together, I had the chance to view him from afar and see how amazing he really is. I had known this all along, but the emotions of our relationship had muddied my opinion of him. If absence really does make the heart grow fonder, this was the perfect example.<br />
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We came home from that trip different. I didn't understand it, but somehow we had matured in how we related to each other. I sensed a new, although different kind of, closeness with him.<br />
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He asked me out to dinner one night a month or so later and I accepted. Although we hadn't addressed it specifically, we began spending more time together and to me, it felt like we were dating.<br />
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In late September, we were on our way to a movie when I got up my nerve to bring it up. I just had to know what he was thinking and how he was feeling. I told him I felt confused because we would go out and have a great time together and he would treat me like we were dating. Then we would go into work the next day and he would treat me like it had never happened. He pulled into the movie parking lot and we talked for a while. It was the same kind of conversation...him being unsure. Finally he said, "I really like you. I just don't know that I'm in love with you."<br />
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That was it for me. The moment that my friend Rachel had always told me about finally came. I didn't cry. I wasn't emotional. I plainly said, "Well, if you don't know that by now, you never will. I need this to be done now."<br />
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Crazily enough, we still went in and saw our movie that night. I don't remember much of it. I just remember feeling like this was the end and that things would be different from that point on. He was due to leave on a trip overseas with some of the other pastors in a week, so I figured that would give me some time to process and decide what I was going to do.<br />
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The night before he left for his trip, he called and asked if I would come over while he packed. I told him no. After I hung up, I regretted saying no. While I felt I needed to be clear about my intentions, I also couldn't bear the thought of him traveling overseas without knowing that I cared about him. I went over to his house, said goodbye, told him to have a great trip and that I would take care of everything on the ministry side while he was gone.<br />
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While he was gone, I began researching ways to leave. I considered moving to California where my grandparents lived. I considered going back to school. I felt I needed to move on. I needed to get away where my heart could heal. When one of my friends asked me out on a date, I said yes. Even though I didn't want to date anyone else, I was feeling an urgency to move on. I had obviously misunderstood, or made up, what God had told me in that chapel. It was over.<br />
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What's funny is that my friend and I went out to dinner and both proceeded to talk about the people we were in love with. He was pining over another girl and everyone knew I was in love with Brad. What was supposed to be a date ended up being a time of commiserating. It's funny to think now of how I thought going out with someone else would mend my heart. However, he invited me to attend a concert with him the next Monday and I said yes. <br />
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On Monday, as I was getting ready, my phone rang. It was Brad calling me from Greece! He was all business, asking about church stuff. I played along and gave him the report. Then, he asked me what I was doing that night. I told him I was going to a concert. He asked if I was going with Rachel and I simply said, um, no. He understood from my tone what I meant and he quickly said goodbye and hung up. The way he hung up made me sad, but I quickly put it out of my mind.<br />
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That Wednesday morning, I woke to the sound of my phone ringing. It was Brad. He said he was calling from the plane (Do you remember those pop-out phones that used to be on the back of airplane seats? No one ever used them because they were so expensive! Yes, that's the phone he was calling me from.). He said they were flying home early and that he would like me to pick him up from the airport. I said no. He asked again, please would I just come? He had some things to tell me.<br />
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Standing in that airport was so awkward. There I was, the secretary...standing there with the pastors wives who were awaiting their husbands. I smiled shyly and told them I was just giving Brad a ride home.<br />
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When we got to Brad's house, he began to unpack. He took out a Greek goddess statuette and said she represented beauty. He told me that she reminded him of me and that he had thought of me every moment of the trip. He said he couldn't enjoy any of the sights or events because he wanted me there with him. He told me he realized that he loved me.<br />
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I was so shocked. And nervous. I was nervous to put myself out there again. How did I know he wouldn't change his mind? I thought it might be easy for him to say these things while we were alone at his house, but what would he say when we were at work? Was this just emotion from being gone, or did he really mean it? I thanked him for the gift and then I left, without saying much else.<br />
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He called the next day and asked if he could take me to dinner. That night he expressed his feeling again. And I told him how I felt. I just didn't feel like I could believe him. He had been so wishy washy before. How could I trust him? He asked me to let him prove it. I agreed. That sounded kind of fun! Before he left that night, he told me again that he loved me. I somehow stammered the words out--in total unbelief that this was actually happening. Could it be that this man that I loved so deeply really did love me back?<br />
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The next morning when I walked out my door to go to work, I found flowers on my doorstep. The note attached said, "I love you and I don't care who knows." I called him and thanked him--and then threatened to take them into work for everyone to see. He told me that I should do that. He really was proving himself.<br />
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That next morning, Saturday, we went to a friend's house to celebrate the adoption of their daughter. Brad asked if he could take me out afterward.<br />
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He took me to a park and we enjoyed a picnic lunch together. We went for a walk in the woods, walked barefoot in the stream and held hands. Was this what dating Brad was really like? I was so incredibly happy.<br />
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As we were on our way back from our walk in the woods, Brad knelt down and asked me to marry him. It was as if the world stopped spinning. I was so in shock that I don't remember anything he said and I couldn't say a word. When he showed me the ring, he told me that he had bought it in Greece. I wish I could tell you that it was so romantic--and it was--but I was so overwhelmed at the events of the past few days that I could hardly respond. I don't think I even officially said yes!<br />
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By that evening, after we had shared the news with friends and family, we settled into what we were doing. We decided to get married quickly--on December 31st, 1999.<br />
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I love our story. It's not perfect. It wasn't then and our first year of marriage was pretty rough as I recovered from the inconsistency of our courtship. It took me a while to accept the fact that he loves me and wants to be married to me. It's still not perfect. We have our disagreements and rough patches. But we made a decision to love each other and that decision, and our love for the Lord, keeps us committed through the hard times. I have always loved Brad. And even as I write this story, I see how his heart was always set on me as well...even though he didn't always know it *wink*<br />
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During our first premarital counseling appointment, I told Brad what God had spoken to me two years earlier. He was so shocked and surprised! And he told me how grateful he was that I had never told him that before he made the decision on his own.<br />
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I am so thankful for him. He is such a gift. He is perfect for me and was well worth the wait!<br />
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Make sure you come back on Wednesday to hear {His Version}! <br />
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I ran out of the school library and down the stairs to the school counselor's office.<br />
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That day was the day that everything changed. My naivety about the world was gone.
The next 3 years were full of turmoil and hurt. Tears and anger. It culminated in a moment...sitting on my kitchen floor eating pill after pill...trying to swallow down the pain.<br />
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After a year of therapy, I came to understand a bit of how our amazing God-created minds work...how we can unintentionally suppress hurtful events...in order to survive. My little 6-year old mind couldn't comprehend what was happening. So it pretended it never happened. Then the images shown in that library brought all the memories to the surface.<br />
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I did the work of recovery. I dug deep, searching for...wanting...healing. Looking back, it seems I only pushed it all down again. Until several years later when I met the true Healer.<br />
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My salvation experience was so radical, so life changing. It never occurred to me that there was more work to do with the memory of that 6-year old girl, abused and tattered.<br />
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It was just last year that it all came flooding back again. The emotions of it...the pain of it all...was suffocating. I found myself questioning who I was. What I say I'm about. Who and what I live my life for. Could I really claim to be a Christ-follower, covered by the blood of Jesus, when I had never talked to HIM about those dark days? Could I be a good wife...a LOVING wife...still carrying around the damaged body of the past? Could I really speak to others about FREEDOM if I was only ignoring those parts of me that weren't truly free? Had I been lying all these years...pretending to be someone I'm not? Am I a hypocrite? A white-washed tomb...full of death and decay deep inside?<br />
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I had this overwhelming desire to tell it all...to tell all the dark details..."Someone has to know...I need to confess it all"...But to who? Who would want to know these things? These things that I haven't talked about in over 20 years? Should I tell Brad? Would he ever be able to look at me the same? What if it turns out that I am still that frightened little girl and not this woman that he thinks he's married to?<br />
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I was then reminded of how gentle our God is...how He knows me better than I know myself and that if now was the time to address these issues then He knew I was ready. And that He would walk every step with me.<br />
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I talked to a good friend. I told her of how I felt this need to confess it all...to get it all out in the open. She challenged me to pray more about that. Why bring the innocent (namely, Brad) into an issue that is years old? Of course, he would walk through the pain with me (he already was), but did he need to know every detail? Was God asking me to take Brad into the depths of that pain? There are some things that just have to be worked out between us and the Lord...and did I really trust that God would be my Healer? Or was I looking to Brad to provide in a way that only my Creator could?<br />
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I will always remember the night that God told me to tell Him everything. It was dark in the room...we were having one of our "choir rehearsals" that seemed to more and more often be turning into nights of worshiping rather than rehearsing. It seemed everyone in the room was in their own space with God. No one was looking at me. I went to one of the dark corners of our rehearsal room and I knelt down with my face in my hands.<br />
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And I told Him everything. Everything I could remember. All the different times of those hands inflicting pain. All the emotions that came with the remembering. All the shame. All the doubt of who I am now. All the questions of how that little girl and the now-woman can co-exist.<br />
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And HIS response: "I KNOW."<br />
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See...He was there. His relationship with me goes way back, way back before my relationship with Him started. He knew me before I ever even knew He existed. He has known me all along...and He has ALWAYS been there. Even in the dark and disgusting.<br />
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Wow. Does that actually say "approved of you"? He approved of me...before, then, during, after, now...always. In an instant, all of those dark times were brought to light. And I was free. Free from shame and guilt. What happened then was then and I am who I say I am now...a daughter of the highest, biggest God there is. Set apart...set FREE.</div>
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There are so many questions that come up with these topics...these hard topics of 'why do bad things happen to good people', 'why does God let these things happen'...And I don't know all the answers. But here is how I've found peace:</div>
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<b>We live in a fallen world full of fallen people.</b> We are not God's puppets. He has given us free will. He wants us to CHOOSE Him and His ways. But when we don't, He's doesn't force us. This means that people will choose to do horrible things and yes, sometimes (okay, always) it affects others. And sometimes those "others" are "us". This is not heaven and we can't expect perfection until we get there.</div>
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<b>God has a plan to use all of the hurt to help others.</b> I experienced this trauma. I survived it. I not only survived, but I am thriving and living a wonderful life with a wonderful husband and wonderful children. I am living life to the full...excited and happy and free to live. And when 1 out of every 3 girls and 1 out of every 6 boys (<a href="http://www.parentsformeganslaw.org/public/statistics_childSexualAbuse.html" target="_blank">source</a>) will deal with this kind of pain, how can I stay silent? How can I pretend it only happens to others? I will not be silent! I will speak out so that YOU know that recovery and healing is possible. So that you can be aware that it happens all around us. So that you can do your part to protect the children around you.</div>
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Okay, and here's the hard one to swallow...</div>
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<b>God loves the bad guys.</b> He loves that person JUST as much as He loves me. This doesn't mean that He approves. He is just as disgusted by these actions as you and I. But His LOVE in unconditional and always there, available to ALL. Does this mean that I spend hours praying for the person who caused me so much pain? To be honest, no I don't. I have surrendered it to Him. He is a just God and a much better judge than I could ever claim to be. Judging is not my job. Living in freedom and worship and sharing my story of healing is my job. And I'm not going to waste any more time thinking about the dark days of the past...except when it can be used to bring freedom to others.</div>
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<b>I am still that little girl.</b> My past is mine. It is His. It did happen. Those memories do exist. And I am stronger because of it. I am a survivor, a conqueror. I claim the freedom that Christ died for all those years ago.</div>
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<span class="text Rev-12-7-Rev-12-12">"They defeated him (the enemy and all his schemes)</span></div>
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<span class="indent-1"><span class="text Rev-12-7-Rev-12-12">Yes, my bold witness. It's still really hard to share this, and I've never shared it publicly before. But if even one of you reading this will relate and find joy and freedom, it is all worth it. If you are struggling with this, please talk to someone. If you don't have anyone, click that little envelope over there and send me an email. I would love to be a listening ear and pray for you. He has not called us to walk in darkness, but in light. And not alone, but together. Don't tell yourself that you don't deserve this freedom or that it was your fault. Because you do and it wasn't. Don't settle for anything less than His absolute best for you!</span></span> <br />
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This is pretty typical for pastors. These responsibilities come with the job. What I feel is unique about our situation is how long we've participated in these things with the same people and the same church. For 16 years.<br />
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I know that many pastors have stayed in the same place longer than us and most of those people will agree with my words:<br />
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It's so worth it to stay around.<br />
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We are part of a healthy church. It is not perfect. People make mistakes and disagree. People are hurtful at times. And those things are to be expected. We are all people, after all.
We have had times when we've wanted to leave. When the pressure or the work load or the dealing with people becomes so challenging that we want to run away. The call is high and the battle is strong and it is everyday life.<br />
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And we did leave once. We knew God was calling us away and although it was hard, we had peace and knew we were doing what God was telling us to do. And then He called us back 18 months later.<br />
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And you know what I missed the most during those 18 months? WHO I missed the most? The normal, everyday people that I see every Sunday. The people who have known me for years. The people who have watched me grow. The people that I've seen grow. I missed walking into church and seeing people's faces...and behind those faces knowing the stories of their lives. Stories that I know because I've known them for years. I've seen them struggle and overcome. I've hugged them and prayed with them in times of grief. I've laughed and rejoiced with them in times of triumph.<br />
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A few weeks ago, Brad and I prayed over a couple as they were dedicating their second child. This is always such a privilege, but what made it extra special was that the dad was in our youth group and youth choir years ago. We watched him grow and then go out to travel the world and tell people about Jesus. Then we watched as he got married and is now having children. It feels like a little wink from the Lord when we see a bit of fruit from our youth days. Not to say that we made him into who he is--he has an incredible family and has had many other wonderful influences, but I love that we've participated and had the chance to witness his life.<br />
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We've had amazing transformations happen at our church. One that comes to mind is a woman in our choir. She came to our church 4 years ago, distraught and hurting. She didn't know the Lord very well, even though she had been a "Christ follower" for many years. The disappointment of fallen hopes and dreams had left her jaded. She joined our choir and got connected with other believers who have supported her and prayed for her. She used to come to rehearsal and cry the whole time. As we've seen her grow, she is now ministering to others. Now when she cries it's because she is so overwhelmed by the miracles God has done in her and in her life. She is now in training to become a pastor and counselor herself!<br />
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The only way I know these stories is because I've been here. I've been here when it's hard and I've been here when it's great. We spent that short time away and we loved those people too, but there is something about longevity that cannot be replaced. God has knit our hearts with the people of New Life Church. They are our family. In good times and in bad.<br />
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We've had an amazing year of miracles at our church. Yesterday was one of the really, really good days. We had lines of people getting baptized and our children's choir and worship team joined our adult choir and worship team to lead worship.<br />
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In the middle of the worship time, I caught eyes with one of my dearest friends. We both smiled, knowing that we were experiencing a miracle. There are so many reasons why yesterday shouldn't have happened. The fact that our church is still a church, and a thriving one at that, is a miracle in itself. But what goes beyond that is looking into the eyes of a friend and being able to smile in the midst of the challenges that face her. Knowing that there is a plan for good for her life and a plan for destruction (as there is for every one of us) and knowing that she is choosing life and freedom. Even when it's hard. And knowing that I will walk every step with her because I'm not going anywhere anytime soon.<br />
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I can't say we'll be here forever. Only the Lord knows that and we would leave again if He told us to. But for now, we know we're where we're supposed to be. Getting to witness changed lives and growing families and triumphs and trials is what makes it so rich and rewarding.<br />
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We are family.<br />
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This post is part of the series {31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way}. Did you miss a lesson? <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/31-lessons-learned-hard-way.html" target="_blank">Catch up here.</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-75627435133350384372012-11-05T10:30:00.002-07:002016-09-01T10:02:49.523-06:00{31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way} :: Lesson 19~How I Found Myself in Uganda ~ Part 2: The Painful Pouring Out Brings the Joyous ReturnI told you <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/10/31-lessons-learned-hard-way-lesson_31.html" target="_blank">last Wednesday</a> about my first experience in Uganda. I told you that I came back changed and never wanted to be the same way I had been...<br />
<br />
What's truly amazing is that I got to go back again, this year and that I learned even more than the first time.<br />
<br />
This past summer I led a team...from beginning to end...coordinated (with lots of help!) all the travel arrangements, team building, fundraisers...arranged for our team of 20 and 60 pieces of luggage to travel to Uganda and all over Uganda for 2 weeks (all of the people made it...I can't say that for all of the luggage...).<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitTTcPYL9iB0gcnKYswvR-6O6fCthOAWf0lEjOyFK3ryCtHThvTvx6NnMgYG0w3H3Yl5_LIOJDKl56Ov7CoBqEDHPQ_zKHa7BpSzv2NQD_wmXFkyENeRa0VBF8HJz5cuYyjv2sVRiKDs1H/s1600/ugandateam.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitTTcPYL9iB0gcnKYswvR-6O6fCthOAWf0lEjOyFK3ryCtHThvTvx6NnMgYG0w3H3Yl5_LIOJDKl56Ov7CoBqEDHPQ_zKHa7BpSzv2NQD_wmXFkyENeRa0VBF8HJz5cuYyjv2sVRiKDs1H/s640/ugandateam.jpg" width="640" /></a></div>
<br />
And what was the icing on the cake...the cherry on top...what made this trip so incredible for me personally, was the fact that my husband and 2 oldest children were a part of our team. And I say a part of our team because they truly were. Brad was the on-the-ground leader of our team. He was the implementer of everything I had planned. We are such a great team that way. Our children, they were truly team members. They didn't cling to us...they sat next to different team members on the bus rides. They led worship. They preached. They played and loved on orphans....<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5odiAn3pB2d47uXHstAI-AJD1-0ZxM2Bq21DCbA68Di3rqgQRY2Q1Gb5P3J20qhq_m97CU-hFgzRzcXFK3Svx15x5HgxKHM6Snz4jjyRk6uYiZOt7A7vTnkin60izC3zaDHw361AXTIk9/s1600/e&c.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5odiAn3pB2d47uXHstAI-AJD1-0ZxM2Bq21DCbA68Di3rqgQRY2Q1Gb5P3J20qhq_m97CU-hFgzRzcXFK3Svx15x5HgxKHM6Snz4jjyRk6uYiZOt7A7vTnkin60izC3zaDHw361AXTIk9/s640/e&c.jpg" width="640" /></a></div>
<br />
It was such an amazing trip but we worked. so. hard. We prayed and put in long hours at the church in preparation for the trip. Our entire family loaded up on Sunday nights (after a full morning at church) to attend team meetings. We all participated in fundraisers. The girls sat with me and practiced crocheting while I worked my little fingers to the bone in order to have products to sell for our fundraisers. Our sights were set on Uganda and it was truly a family effort for several months before we ever left. <br />
<br />
On the ground, my children witnessed Brad and I operating in the God-given grace that comes with missions trips. Brad and I have led teams in the past, but never with our children. I believe Caleb and Emma learned new things about us during those 2 weeks. They saw me bury my head in my hands and sob on our first night...so overwhelmed by the day's events and how I felt <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/lira.html" target="_blank">I had failed our team in planning a successful first day</a>. We stood at the top of <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/safari.html" target="_blank">Murchison Falls</a>, soaking wet and completely exhilarated and overwhelmed at God's awesome creation. They witnessed <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/lira.html" target="_blank">Brad preaching the Gospel to a village of unreached people in a remote village in northern Uganda</a>. And they loved every minute. They cried when we left. They regularly talk about their friends over there and how they can't wait to go back.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
</div>
<br />
I watched God do miracles in each and every one of our team members. We were each pushed to our limit at different times and it was amazing to see how God carried us through each moment. Many of us did what we had previously thought impossible. For me, raising the money and taking our team and accomplishing the tasks that had been given to us...all of these were things I had to give to the Lord and let Him do through me.<br />
<br />
Our second to last night there, after a full day of work at the <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/09/seeta-uganda.html" target="_blank">orphanage</a>, we loaded the bus for our 40 minute drive to our lodging location. My heart was heavy knowing that I only had one day left with these Ugandan children who have a hold on my heart but I was also longing for home...my arms ached at times to hold my own 3 children who were awaiting our return home. I sat next to a window, feeling the breeze blow away the sticky and the sweat and the dirt of the day, and listened to the sounds.<br />
<br />
The hum of the bus motor.<br />
The chatter and shouts from the towns people as we drove by.<br />
The sounds of our team.<br />
<br />
The sounds of our team.<br />
<br />
They were laughing and joking around.<br />
They were talking about the children they had interacted with that day.<br />
They were sharing photos and videos.<br />
<br />
What I remember clearest is <a href="http://www.stilettosandgrace.com/" target="_blank">Angela</a> talking about Stella. Stella, the single mom of 4. Stella, the beaded-jewelry maker. Stella, who had hauled pounds and pounds of jewelry out to the orphanage in order to make money for her children's school tuition. Angela had spent a couple of hours with Stella, listening to her story. Looking into her eyes. Validating the work she does to provide for her children. She had invested in Stella. And she was talking about what the future might hold...could we find a way to ship necklaces to the states? Could we help support Stella in a long-term way?<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmfnfAhBGKx5mtV-Qg0VD7WuM2dQf3_iRDbhP2Q-3UKClI3DZJ1oiB5e4UWC6PvpLksxQeEE0BFIwR3qaKShB-5w7dTxxsDQGHfV7V0D56GzuuNt_xcgudFMR85hzjlQpSYqEZBlQw800s/s1600/stella.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmfnfAhBGKx5mtV-Qg0VD7WuM2dQf3_iRDbhP2Q-3UKClI3DZJ1oiB5e4UWC6PvpLksxQeEE0BFIwR3qaKShB-5w7dTxxsDQGHfV7V0D56GzuuNt_xcgudFMR85hzjlQpSYqEZBlQw800s/s640/stella.jpg" width="480" /></a></div>
<br />
And it was as if time stood still. I was physically there, but in my mind's eye, in my spirit, I could see all that God was doing. The efforts of the last 8-9 months went far beyond those 2 weeks in Uganda. The change is eternal. It's everlasting. We ALL left changed. We, the 20 Americans and we the people who shared common experiences over those 2 weeks...Ugandans and Americans alike.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2011/06/farida-hanifah-uganda-memories.html" target="_blank">Farida</a> knows me. She knows that she has someone all the way across the ocean, in America, who has her back. Who is praying for her.<br />
<br />
Stella met with Angela, a strong white woman from America, who encouraged her and spoke words of life over her.<br />
<br />
Godfrey played and laughed and connected with Caleb, a white boy from America, for 4 days. They both cried when they said goodbye.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipqu5laewBNGvjbR1kYhdNvf3k46JT9XmpIqEp00yY3RR6OcFwMiGTag4erePT_Y-dxDRR1lTFDMYPeuGo57UE2Mmn0MtYWHl6FvB7klo59iJNWke59DGq8UWrtgemRdFgmStsFwoz5GQa/s1600/IMG_1320.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="478" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipqu5laewBNGvjbR1kYhdNvf3k46JT9XmpIqEp00yY3RR6OcFwMiGTag4erePT_Y-dxDRR1lTFDMYPeuGo57UE2Mmn0MtYWHl6FvB7klo59iJNWke59DGq8UWrtgemRdFgmStsFwoz5GQa/s640/IMG_1320.JPG" width="640" /></a></div>
<br />
These are life-connections. These interactions are why we work so hard to travel and share with people from other cultures. Because there is something about an outsider, an objective observer, telling you that you are important...that your life matters...that YOU matter...that is everlasting.<br />
<br />
I sat on that bus, tears rolling down my face, and thanked God. I thanked Him for using me. I thanked Him for letting me see, letting me hear, letting me touch these people and sense His heart for them. I had never felt more used in my life...in a good way.<br />
<br />
And sitting beside me was my beautiful, 9 year old Emma. Emma who loved those people like I love those people. Emma who is also forever changed because of those 2 weeks.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />
And I realized that ministry is just this...the investment in our family first. And then the pouring out of our family unit. God wants to use all of us, young and old, experienced and inexperienced...He takes us all. He wants us to love each other well and then pour out of that love onto others.<br />
<br />
There is nothing else I'd rather do.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.mylivesignature.com/" target="_blank"><img src="http://signatures.mylivesignature.com/54488/198/D6B9D435DD12A90EA4D218AE0D0BCF7C.png" style="background: transparent; border: 0 !important;" /></a><br />
This post is part of the series {31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way}. Did you miss a lesson? <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/31-lessons-learned-hard-way.html" target="_blank">Catch up here.</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-80796164229323089642012-11-05T10:30:00.001-07:002016-09-01T10:01:38.828-06:00{31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way} :: Lesson 19~How I Found Myself in Uganda ~ Part 2: The Painful Pouring Out Brings the Joyous ReturnI told you <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/10/31-lessons-learned-hard-way-lesson_31.html" target="_blank">last Wednesday</a> about my first experience in Uganda. I told you that I came back changed and never wanted to be the same way I had been...<br />
<br />
What's truly amazing is that I got to go back again, this year and that I learned even more than the first time.<br />
<br />
This past summer I led a team...from beginning to end...coordinated (with lots of help!) all the travel arrangements, team building, fundraisers...arranged for our team of 20 and 60 pieces of luggage to travel to Uganda and all over Uganda for 2 weeks (all of the people made it...I can't say that for all of the luggage...).<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitTTcPYL9iB0gcnKYswvR-6O6fCthOAWf0lEjOyFK3ryCtHThvTvx6NnMgYG0w3H3Yl5_LIOJDKl56Ov7CoBqEDHPQ_zKHa7BpSzv2NQD_wmXFkyENeRa0VBF8HJz5cuYyjv2sVRiKDs1H/s1600/ugandateam.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitTTcPYL9iB0gcnKYswvR-6O6fCthOAWf0lEjOyFK3ryCtHThvTvx6NnMgYG0w3H3Yl5_LIOJDKl56Ov7CoBqEDHPQ_zKHa7BpSzv2NQD_wmXFkyENeRa0VBF8HJz5cuYyjv2sVRiKDs1H/s640/ugandateam.jpg" width="640" /></a></div>
<br />
And what was the icing on the cake...the cherry on top...what made this trip so incredible for me personally, was the fact that my husband and 2 oldest children were a part of our team. And I say a part of our team because they truly were. Brad was the on-the-ground leader of our team. He was the implementer of everything I had planned. We are such a great team that way. Our children, they were truly team members. They didn't cling to us...they sat next to different team members on the bus rides. They led worship. They preached. They played and loved on orphans....<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5odiAn3pB2d47uXHstAI-AJD1-0ZxM2Bq21DCbA68Di3rqgQRY2Q1Gb5P3J20qhq_m97CU-hFgzRzcXFK3Svx15x5HgxKHM6Snz4jjyRk6uYiZOt7A7vTnkin60izC3zaDHw361AXTIk9/s1600/e&c.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="426" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5odiAn3pB2d47uXHstAI-AJD1-0ZxM2Bq21DCbA68Di3rqgQRY2Q1Gb5P3J20qhq_m97CU-hFgzRzcXFK3Svx15x5HgxKHM6Snz4jjyRk6uYiZOt7A7vTnkin60izC3zaDHw361AXTIk9/s640/e&c.jpg" width="640" /></a></div>
<br />
It was such an amazing trip but we worked. so. hard. We prayed and put in long hours at the church in preparation for the trip. Our entire family loaded up on Sunday nights (after a full morning at church) to attend team meetings. We all participated in fundraisers. The girls sat with me and practiced crocheting while I worked my little fingers to the bone in order to have products to sell for our fundraisers. Our sights were set on Uganda and it was truly a family effort for several months before we ever left. <br />
<br />
On the ground, my children witnessed Brad and I operating in the God-given grace that comes with missions trips. Brad and I have led teams in the past, but never with our children. I believe Caleb and Emma learned new things about us during those 2 weeks. They saw me bury my head in my hands and sob on our first night...so overwhelmed by the day's events and how I felt <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/lira.html" target="_blank">I had failed our team in planning a successful first day</a>. We stood at the top of <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/safari.html" target="_blank">Murchison Falls</a>, soaking wet and completely exhilarated and overwhelmed at God's awesome creation. They witnessed <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/lira.html" target="_blank">Brad preaching the Gospel to a village of unreached people in a remote village in northern Uganda</a>. And they loved every minute. They cried when we left. They regularly talk about their friends over there and how they can't wait to go back.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
</div>
<br />
I watched God do miracles in each and every one of our team members. We were each pushed to our limit at different times and it was amazing to see how God carried us through each moment. Many of us did what we had previously thought impossible. For me, raising the money and taking our team and accomplishing the tasks that had been given to us...all of these were things I had to give to the Lord and let Him do through me.<br />
<br />
Our second to last night there, after a full day of work at the <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/09/seeta-uganda.html" target="_blank">orphanage</a>, we loaded the bus for our 40 minute drive to our lodging location. My heart was heavy knowing that I only had one day left with these Ugandan children who have a hold on my heart but I was also longing for home...my arms ached at times to hold my own 3 children who were awaiting our return home. I sat next to a window, feeling the breeze blow away the sticky and the sweat and the dirt of the day, and listened to the sounds.<br />
<br />
The hum of the bus motor.<br />
The chatter and shouts from the towns people as we drove by.<br />
The sounds of our team.<br />
<br />
The sounds of our team.<br />
<br />
They were laughing and joking around.<br />
They were talking about the children they had interacted with that day.<br />
They were sharing photos and videos.<br />
<br />
What I remember clearest is <a href="http://www.stilettosandgrace.com/" target="_blank">Angela</a> talking about Stella. Stella, the single mom of 4. Stella, the beaded-jewelry maker. Stella, who had hauled pounds and pounds of jewelry out to the orphanage in order to make money for her children's school tuition. Angela had spent a couple of hours with Stella, listening to her story. Looking into her eyes. Validating the work she does to provide for her children. She had invested in Stella. And she was talking about what the future might hold...could we find a way to ship necklaces to the states? Could we help support Stella in a long-term way?<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmfnfAhBGKx5mtV-Qg0VD7WuM2dQf3_iRDbhP2Q-3UKClI3DZJ1oiB5e4UWC6PvpLksxQeEE0BFIwR3qaKShB-5w7dTxxsDQGHfV7V0D56GzuuNt_xcgudFMR85hzjlQpSYqEZBlQw800s/s1600/stella.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmfnfAhBGKx5mtV-Qg0VD7WuM2dQf3_iRDbhP2Q-3UKClI3DZJ1oiB5e4UWC6PvpLksxQeEE0BFIwR3qaKShB-5w7dTxxsDQGHfV7V0D56GzuuNt_xcgudFMR85hzjlQpSYqEZBlQw800s/s640/stella.jpg" width="480" /></a></div>
<br />
And it was as if time stood still. I was physically there, but in my mind's eye, in my spirit, I could see all that God was doing. The efforts of the last 8-9 months went far beyond those 2 weeks in Uganda. The change is eternal. It's everlasting. We ALL left changed. We, the 20 Americans and we the people who shared common experiences over those 2 weeks...Ugandans and Americans alike.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2011/06/farida-hanifah-uganda-memories.html" target="_blank">Farida</a> knows me. She knows that she has someone all the way across the ocean, in America, who has her back. Who is praying for her.<br />
<br />
Stella met with Angela, a strong white woman from America, who encouraged her and spoke words of life over her.<br />
<br />
Godfrey played and laughed and connected with Caleb, a white boy from America, for 4 days. They both cried when they said goodbye.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipqu5laewBNGvjbR1kYhdNvf3k46JT9XmpIqEp00yY3RR6OcFwMiGTag4erePT_Y-dxDRR1lTFDMYPeuGo57UE2Mmn0MtYWHl6FvB7klo59iJNWke59DGq8UWrtgemRdFgmStsFwoz5GQa/s1600/IMG_1320.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="478" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipqu5laewBNGvjbR1kYhdNvf3k46JT9XmpIqEp00yY3RR6OcFwMiGTag4erePT_Y-dxDRR1lTFDMYPeuGo57UE2Mmn0MtYWHl6FvB7klo59iJNWke59DGq8UWrtgemRdFgmStsFwoz5GQa/s640/IMG_1320.JPG" width="640" /></a></div>
<br />
These are life-connections. These interactions are why we work so hard to travel and share with people from other cultures. Because there is something about an outsider, an objective observer, telling you that you are important...that your life matters...that YOU matter...that is everlasting.<br />
<br />
I sat on that bus, tears rolling down my face, and thanked God. I thanked Him for using me. I thanked Him for letting me see, letting me hear, letting me touch these people and sense His heart for them. I had never felt more used in my life...in a good way.<br />
<br />
And sitting beside me was my beautiful, 9 year old Emma. Emma who loved those people like I love those people. Emma who is also forever changed because of those 2 weeks.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_B81meLsE0I55M_EgbrWKBIwbkO5QL7o0Dg195-TLW0y3tjS4Mmt5iPTMMnYMrOr-GfDAIFBaHe1NKIObrmz8Hqo6lrEmwcYAiy3QB6bOeRYzL700padNdTIgWAq9PU66NpXgO1YcNBGo/s1600/100_0289.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_B81meLsE0I55M_EgbrWKBIwbkO5QL7o0Dg195-TLW0y3tjS4Mmt5iPTMMnYMrOr-GfDAIFBaHe1NKIObrmz8Hqo6lrEmwcYAiy3QB6bOeRYzL700padNdTIgWAq9PU66NpXgO1YcNBGo/s640/100_0289.JPG" width="480" /></a></div>
<br />
And I realized that ministry is just this...the investment in our family first. And then the pouring out of our family unit. God wants to use all of us, young and old, experienced and inexperienced...He takes us all. He wants us to love each other well and then pour out of that love onto others.<br />
<br />
There is nothing else I'd rather do.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.mylivesignature.com/" target="_blank"><img src="http://signatures.mylivesignature.com/54488/198/D6B9D435DD12A90EA4D218AE0D0BCF7C.png" style="background: transparent; border: 0 !important;" /></a><br />
This post is part of the series {31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way}. Did you miss a lesson? <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2012/08/31-lessons-learned-hard-way.html" target="_blank">Catch up here.</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00703109017442525870noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9121603511883500424.post-70031779093329221082012-10-31T13:43:00.001-06:002012-11-05T10:56:11.696-07:00{31 Lessons Learned the Hard Way} :: Lesson 18~How I Found Myself in Uganda ~ Part 1: Don't Be a FrogIf you've been around here for some time, you may know that I am a worship pastor's wife. Brad and I met while involved in youth ministry. We married and continued to pastor students for another 5 years before moving to worship ministry. We've been in the worship world for 8 years now.<br />
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My first role in ministry was with youth. It seemed a natural fit and it was the area all my friends were participating in. After Brad and I married, I continued to participate as he did...to youth while he did youth. To adults when he took the position in the worship department. It never really occurred to me that God might call me to something different until I found myself surrounded by Ugandan orphans years later.<br />
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The trip to Uganda came about so suddenly. I knew in my heart I had always wanted to go, but going was so stretching and uncomfortable.
I started having panic attacks about a week before we left. Whenever I would think about leaving Brad and the kids, I would be filled with panic and anxiety. My heart would start racing and I would have a hard time breathing. One of the symptoms of a panic attack is:<br />
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That's exactly what I was fearing. I was scared to leave my kids for 2 weeks. I was nervous about the possibility of little, or no, communication while I was gone. On the other side, I was really nervous about traveling to the other side of the world with a group of people I didn't know very well. What if they didn't like me?<br />
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The first night there, I couldn't sleep. Every time I would lay down, I couldn't breathe. I spent the entire night praying and planning an escape plan. I felt I had made a mistake and I desperately needed to get home to my family.<br />
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I made it through the night and made sure to not make a sound at breakfast the next morning. I kept my mouth closed for fear that if I opened it, I would say all the things I was actually thinking and our team would then know that I had lost my mind.<br />
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I found a way to call home that day and heard about all the fun the kids were having with their daddy. Everyone was happy and Brad told me exactly what I needed to hear. He was so encouraging and told me to take advantage of every minute. It would be such a waste to spend this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity being homesick. It felt like he was giving his blessing. I realized it was okay to enjoy my time away and that loving these orphan children was not a betrayal of my love for my family.<br />
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Although it was not immediate, I gave myself fully to the purpose for which I had come half way around the world. I worked hard, painting and cleaning orphan homes. I climbed ladders and hung mosquito nets, just feet away from chirping bats. I sat on the porch of <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2011/06/farida-hanifah-uganda-memories.html" target="_blank">Farida and Hanifah</a> and learned all about their lives. They sang songs to me and I to them. I visited the home of <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2011/07/marvin-uganda-memories.html" target="_blank">sweet Marvin</a>. I played with<a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2011/07/desire-uganda-memories.html" target="_blank"> Desire</a>. I met Sarah who had left 4 of her children in order to make money to send back to them. We took an excursion to the <a href="http://adashofparsley.blogspot.com/2011/07/month-lateruganda-memories.html" target="_blank">source of the Nile River</a>, so sleek and calm. I laughed and laughed with my team. We worshiped together. I watched the sunsets fill the sky with colors like I had never seen before. I danced around and sang songs with the orphan children.<br />
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I felt so alive. I fell in love with those people. And I knew that I had found an avenue of ministry...a God-given ministry...that belonged to me. I realized I have gifts that go beyond serving my husband and children.<br />
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I was also so overcome with gratitude. So thankful to my God who awoke these dreams at just the right time. Who had planned this trip with me in mind...knowing that it would change me forever. So thankful to my husband who gave me permission to explore...to pursue dreams...to change.<br />
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I came home with a new confidence. I finally knew that God intends to use me, in ways that are unique to me. There should be no striving to be someone else. No hiding in the shadow of my husband. I now know that God has brought me to this place, this time, for a specific purpose and that it is not to the exclusion or the limitation of my role as wife and mother. If I follow His leading, it all works together. For His purpose.<br />
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This realization is so empowering. It's so freeing. I am wholeheartedly chasing this God of ours...chasing His purposes. After experiencing the pouring out of myself in such a way, I don't ever want to go back to the small-minded, complacent place of my past. It's like the analogy of the frog. If you put a frog in boiling water, it will jump right out. If you put it in cold water and slowly warm it to boiling, the frog will stay in the gradually warming water, happily swimming around, not realizing it will soon be dead. This is how complacency works in our lives. We don't suddenly become complacent. But we can stay still too long, not realizing that by resisting to move, we are closer and closer to dying.<br />
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We have to move. We have to continue to grow. I gave of myself to these people in really hard ways, but the reward is mine. It really is true that we can find ourselves, the true God-created self, through the pouring out of our lives.<br />
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This should come as no surprise. Jesus said it many years ago:<br />
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<span class="text Matt-10-38-Matt-10-39" id="en-MSG-10019">And that's exactly what happened. I found myself and Him!</span></div>
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<span class="text Matt-10-38-Matt-10-39" id="en-MSG-10019">Now, before you think I'm going to run off, leave my family, and become a full time missionary to Uganda...let me assure you that's not going to happen. Come back on Monday for Part 2 where I'll explain how it all works together....</span></div>
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My husband...he is an extreme extrovert. He can be grouchy, tired, discouraged...give him 30 minutes mingling with people and he'll be happy, energized, ready to conquer the world!<br />
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I am so introverted that I can spend days at home. In my pjs. No phone calls, no emails...and I'm fine. If I'm not careful, I can go days without talking to anyone but my husband and children.<br />
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But I'm not at my best this way. Ideally, I should have 2-3 days a week without a lot scheduled. I need a few things here and there to make sure I get dressed and actually shower occasionally...you think I'm kidding...<br />
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If I spend too much time on my own I can become cynical and edgy. I can get so wrapped up in my own thoughts that I become unbalanced. So introspective that I lose touch with real people and real needs. God didn't create us to live alone. He has given us each other. I am strengthened by people. My times alone with my thoughts and with the Lord are in turn used to strengthen others.<br />
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I think it's important to come in contact with a variety of people. Mixing it up every now and then keeps us on our toes. It keeps us from becoming too comfortable. Here are some types of people that I've found to help "round out" my rough edges. These are people beyond my immediate family:<br />
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<b>A best friend.</b> Hopefully one you've known for 5+ years. You've been around each other long enough to see the joyful, triumphant moments and the dark and dirty, unattractive ones (both physically and emotionally) and you still love each other. It's comfortable and yet, there's no doubt this person will lovingly tell you if there's spinach in your teeth...or a plank in your eye (both physically and emotionally)<br />
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<b>A mentor. </b>Someone who's been married longer than you. Has kids older than you. Has walked with God longer than you. Knows enough to tell you that it won't always be this way...A) If things are great, make sure you're storing up for the drought. B) If things are rough, hang on because things will get better.<br />
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<b>A younger friend.</b> Someone who's 5-10 years behind you. They make you feel smart because you're able to tell them A & B from above. Just kidding...they strengthen you because they require you to think beyond yourself. They require you to analyze what you actually believe and explain why you believe it.<br />
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<b>A calling encourager.</b> Someone who's actually doing (or has done) what is in your heart to be doing. A teacher, leader who can give you real practical tips and advice to help you get where you're going. If you want to sing, find a voice teacher. If you want to write, find an author. If you want to speak, find a speaker. If you enjoy taking pictures, find a photographer.<br />
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<b>A new friend.</b> Enjoy the newness and how this really feels like dating. Enjoy it even more when it moves beyond this point.<br />
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<b>A hobby friend.</b> A workout buddy. A crafting friend. A shopping companion. Can't think of a hobby? Find one! <br />
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<b>A group of older people.</b> Listen to their stories. Notice how easily (or not easily) they laugh. Notice if they still love their spouse. Ask them what gives them joy. Find out what their greatest life lessons are.<br />
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<b>A group of younger people.</b> Laugh. Goof around. Be silly. It'll feel good, I promise.<br />
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I know, it's A LOT of people! Tell me about it...I'm an introvert, remember? But life is so much richer with people...even the ones you don't like very much. Everyone has a story and has something to teach us and I've found much joy in being open to the unexpected surprises...<br />
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an unexpected friend,<br />
an encouragement from an unlikely source,<br />
seeing the world through someone else's eyes.<br />
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What do you think? Do you have these people? Is there someone I missed?<br />
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Yea, it tastes like it looks. I've been struggling with some health issues so I am "cleansing" in hopes of feeling better.<br />
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Cleansing feels very similar to fasting. Today is day one so I have a slight headache. If it continues to feel like fasting, tomorrow I'll be pretty sluggish and have a worse headache. I might be nauseated and have leg cramps too. This is only a 2 day cleanse, so I'll miss the experience of day 3. Fasting on day 3 is wonderful. No more headaches, still a bit sluggish...but the mental and spiritual clarity that comes on day 3 is glorious.<br />
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<span class="text Joel-2-12">That is why the <span class="small-caps" style="font-variant: small-caps;">Lord</span> says,</span><br />
<span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks"> </span><span class="text Joel-2-12">“Turn to me now, while there is time.</span></span><br />
<span class="text Joel-2-12">Give me your hearts.</span><br />
<span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks"> </span><span class="text Joel-2-12">Come with fasting, weeping, and mourning.</span></span></div>
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<span class="indent-1"><span class="text Joel-2-12">~Joel 2:12</span></span></div>
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<span class="indent-1"><span class="text Joel-2-12">There are so many benefits to fasting. When we fast in our home, we limit television and music. We limit social media and electronic gaming. We set aside a few days to quiet ourselves and enable our hearts to be open to what God is speaking.</span></span></div>
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<span class="indent-1"><span class="text Joel-2-12">Don't misunderstand me and think that I'm saying it's not hard. Because it is. We are tempted to indulge. Our bodies ache. We're grouchy and tired. We cheat sometimes (gasp!). But our intentions for those times are to seek God.</span></span></div>
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<span class="indent-1"><span class="text Joel-2-12">It was during a fast at the beginning of the year that God revealed His plan for our year. And everything He spoke seemed so impossible. He had reassured us through His Word.</span></span></div>
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<span class="text Josh-1-9" id="en-NLT-5837">This is my command—be strong and courageous! </span></div>
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<span class="text Josh-1-9" id="en-NLT-5837">Do not be afraid or discouraged. </span></div>
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<span class="text Josh-1-9" id="en-NLT-5837">For the <span class="small-caps" style="font-variant: small-caps;">Lord</span> your God is with you wherever you go.”</span></div>
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<span class="text Josh-1-9" id="en-NLT-5837">And by July every single thing He had promised had happened.</span></div>
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<span class="text Josh-1-9" id="en-NLT-5837">I will always be thankful when I look back on that fast and remember how God met us right where we were and spoke promises that seemed way too big and how He was so...close.</span></div>
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<span class="text Josh-1-9" id="en-NLT-5837">When we clear away the stuff of this world...the food, the television, the internet...we allow ourselves an opportunity to meet with God in a new way.</span></div>
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<span class="text Josh-1-9" id="en-NLT-5837">I heard of a woman who lives in the poorest village in Zambia. She is a single mother of 4 children, who all have AIDS. Her husband left her for a prostitute. She connected with some Americans during a mission trip. The Americans, shocked and upset by the poverty surrounding them, said they wished they could just pack everyone up and bring them home to America.</span></div>
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<span class="text Josh-1-9" id="en-NLT-5837">This woman said, "You couldn't pay me enough to go. We have problems here in Zambia, but your problems are much worse. I fear I wouldn't be able to hear the voice of God in America."</span></div>
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<span class="text Josh-1-9" id="en-NLT-5837">I was so struck by the idea that this woman would give up food, quality healthcare and an education in order to hear the voice of God! So the question is, what are we willing to sacrifice?</span><span class="indent-1"><span class="text Joel-2-12"> </span></span></div>
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